Just about everyone can agree that flirting is no fun, right? Sure, there are some outliers who enjoy "the chase," but for the most part, trying to catch your crush's eye can feel torturous.
Rachelle Coriddi filmed her daughter, Ella, talking about her crush, a boy named John, in the car after school one day and posted the video to YouTube. The little girl said some pretty relatable things about how difficult flirting can be, no matter what your age.
"So Ella," the video starts. "Did you play with the girls at your school today?"
Ella tells her mom that, no, she did not play with the girls at school because she was playing tag with John instead. It seems that Coriddi already had an idea of who John was, and that her daughter liked him.
"Does John like you?" she asked Ella.
"He said 50/50," Ella responded.
When Coriddi suggested that Ella might have to work on swaying the other 50% in her favor, the little girl went off.
"I dress cute, I smile at him, I even winked at him — two times," she said. "And all I get back is one — one — fake smile."
Girl, we feel you. Sometimes the effort we put into trying to develop a relationship just isn't worth what we get back. And honestly, we doubt John is worth the anguish Ella seems to be feeling.
"I've tried. I've tried," she said as she threw her head back. "Why is my life so miserable?"
It's pretty clear that she isn't truly feeling like her life is over because this one boy doesn't like her — she and her mom laugh through her whole dramatic retelling of her flirting strategy — but Ella hits on something that many people feel when it seems like we're trying so hard to build a relationship the other person/people don't want: hopelessness.
Dressing cute, smiling, and even winking might not be the best way to let someone know you're interested, though. A review of two studies exploring how accurately people perceive flirting found that we're not very good at picking up on those subtle hints.
So if you find yourself in Ella's shoes, do what she did: ask your crush outright. But if they come back at you with "I like you 50/50," we suggest you cut your losses.
Aaaaaand she's back. Well, almost. The new trailer for season 3 of Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt dropped today and I'm pleased to announce Kimmy is at it again. And by that I mean, diving headfirst into a situation she is in no way prepared for as a woman who spent a good portion of her life underground. This time around, she's headed to college.
"Now that I have my GED, what do I do next?" Kimmy, played by Ellie Kemper, asks at the beginning of the trailer.
"After high school most white girls go to college," Lillian (Carol Kane) replies.
While Kimmy is busy getting collegiate (alongside a reluctant Xanthippe, played by Dylan Gelula), Titus (Tituss Burgess) is back and unemployed. He's also majorly suspicious of Michael, who he thinks is seeing another man after watching him enter his apartment with a stranger. This causes Titus to go full Lemonade, smashing Michael's car with a baseball bat.
That's not all. Kimmy is also still tangled up in a messy divorce with the Reverend, the man responsible for this whole mess, played by Jon Hamm. Plus, it looks like she has a whole new love on her hands. Or, at least, lust. The trailer ends with our protagonist sitting down with a new beau exchanging "sexual consent forms."
"What is this?" Kimmy asks.
"It's what I'm agreeing to let you do to me," her suitor replies.
"I like you but...I just met you," she says. "I'm not gonna — oh, come on! Thumbs are for hitchhiking and being Fonzie!"
Somehow everything and nothing has changed for Kimmy, which is honestly exactly what we want. The show has won the hearts of viewers for its reliable, upbeat laughs thanks to the characters' consistent dynamics. Watch the trailer below before the whole season drops on Netflix May 19!
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While it’s great that People is acknowledging that women over 40 are beautiful, the magazine appears to demonstrated how out of step it is. With its doe-eyed tunnel vision on Roberts, the publication missed an opportunity to uplift women in entertainment who are doing more. They wow us in their current roles. Meryl Streep would even have been a better choice if the magazine just had to name a white woman in the top spot.
And there is the fact that women of color have been traditionally underrepresented by People in this arena. With the notable exceptions of stars like Halle Berry, Lupita Nyong'o, and Jennifer Lopez, People has traditionally reserved its “most beautiful” title for white people. There were so many options this time around, and we’ve taken the privilege of rounding them up.
Modern Family’s Gloria has been ranked the highest-paid actress in the world three times.
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Taraji P. Henson, 46
The same woman who gives us Cookie every week on Empire also helped tell the powerful story of three Black women computers at NASA.
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Viola Davis, 51
Davis made history this year when she became the only Black actor or actress to win the Triple Crown of acting (a Tony, Emmy, and Oscar). She also slays as Annalise Keating on How to Get Away With Murder.
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Lucy Liu, 48
Her cameo in Girls was one the highlights of the show’s penultimate season.
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Gabrielle Union, 44
The star of Being Mary Jane is also a fierce advocate on behalf of women and Black communities.
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Sanaa Lathan, 45
Currently the star of Fox’s new crime drama Shots Fired.
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Penelope Cruz, 42
She’s been in too many films to count, with two more coming this year. She’ll also be playing Donatella Versace in 2018’s American Crime Story.
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Lisa Bonet, 49
The former Cosby kid is now the coolest mom ever, and still a great actress.
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Nia Long, 46
If Black people had our own version of People, Long would be the actress we gave the “Most Beautiful Woman” title to five times. But who else can give Cookie such a good run for her money after nearly 20 years in the industry?
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Thandie Newton, 44
Westworld’s finest, Newton is ageless and a damn good actress.
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Kerry Washington, 40
Do this really require any explanation? She's Olivia Pope for crying out loud!
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Even if you haven’t had a Hot Pocket in years, you probably still remember how truly HOT those compact microwavable meals get. We certainly still think of Hot Pockets as a special kind of amazing simply because they go from being completely frozen solid block of crust and cheese and meat filling to too hot to eat in just two minutes. So it really makes perfect sense that someone would make a Hot Pocket sleeping bag. The Daily Dot just introduced us to the pocket that will take our freezing buns and turn them toasty.
ThinkGeek, a website know for quirky and fun gifts, designed a Hot Pocket sleeping bag to keep us warm while camping in extreme situations or just chilling out on our couches — perhaps while eating a Hot Pocket. According to the product description, the sleeping bag is equipped with a custom MicroWaav insulation system, created by ThinkGeek. This special system actually does what a Hot Pocket never could. In this bag, your extremities will stay warm without overheating your core. That sounds pretty good since we've never gotten out of a regular sleeping bag without being drenched in sweat.
While we won't get as piping hot as a Hot Pocket, the sleeping bag does mimic the look of the meal in several different ways. The red inside is designed to look like the tasty marinara packed inside the frozen Hot Pocket Pizza Pocket. Plus, the outside of the bag even features the crisping sleeve the hot dish is cooked in, which gives an extra layer of warmth.
The Hot Pocket Sleeping Bag costs $79.99 on the ThinkGeek site. The price is pretty comparable to other nice sleeping bags, although this one will definitely make you stand out in a crowd. We can now have something we never knew we wanted: the ability to get cozy anywhere while looking like a human Hot Pocket.
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It's not hard to understand why George Clooney calls Lake Como his second home: Between the perpetually blue skies and stunning mountain ranges, this idyllic destination looks like the setting of an epic blockbuster.
While the Alpine gem is the playground of the rich and famous, you don't have to be a wealthy celebrity to admire its beauty. Summer is on the way, and the region is looking more photogenic than ever. We've rounded up some stunning photography of the five-star destination so you can enjoy a vicarious virtual escape. One day, when you're able to live it up like George and Amal, you'll know just the places to hit up.
If you get the chance to go on a hydrofoil tour around the lake, the guides are more than happy to point out the various celebrity residences scattered around the area. This is Villa La Cassinella, allegedly owned by Richard Branson.
And here's Villa Oleandra, George Clooney's gorgeous home.
Many people rave about the beautiful lakefront, but the city of Como deserves some love, too. The old town is steeped in history and highly pedestrian-friendly, making it the ideal spot for a casual walking tour. Feasting on a gelato and people-watching in Piazza Cavour is how the Italians would do it.
The charming retro exterior of Grand Hotel Tremezzo looks ready for a Wes Anderson film. The five-star hotel opened in the 1900s and remains a hub for chic and worldly travelers to this day.
The view of Lake Como paired with some white wine or Aperol spritz — it's la dolce vita, indeed.
Once the estate of a Milanese nobleman, Villa Carlotta is now a museum for 19th-century artwork, with a romantic garden that makes it a popular venue for destination weddings.
The villa has a first-rate art collection. The gorgeous frescoes are impressively well-preserved.
Imagine saying "I do" surrounded by the villa's stunning greenery.
Not all the best hotels are on the lake. Sheraton Lake Como Hotel — surrounded by the verdant Rhaetian Alps — offers some amazing views, too.
With this panorama, it's hard to want to do anything but spend your days by the pool.
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Carbs often get a bad rap — but they're not the enemy. In fact, they're extremely important for our bodies, and are vital sources of energy. However, that hasn't stopped diet companies from touting the benefits of low-carb or even no-carb diets. We're certainly not here to diet-shame anyone, but as chef Ruby Tandoh pointed out, praising diets like these often ignores that eating carbs may be the only viable option for some.
In a series of tweets, Tandoh wrote about the problem with coding certain foods as "morally/nutritionally 'superior'" over others.
"CARBS ARE A CLASS ISSUE," she wrote. "cheap carbs are vital fuel for low-income communities: low/no-carb diets are about coding money/status – not health."
CARBS ARE A CLASS ISSUE. cheap carbs are vital fuel for low-income communities: low/no-carb diets are about coding money/status – not health
Tandoh wrote that she isn't here to police anyone's diets — especially if you happen to not be able to eat carbs on account of a medical condition — but she does want to point out that food choices can be loaded with more meaning than we think.
if you can't have carbs cos you have a genuine medical condition, i do sympathise - more power to you! - but truly you don't need to tell me
As Tandoh said, there are a lot of implications in demonizing certain foods like carbs. There aren't any "good" or "bad" foods, and your nutrition is much more complicated than that. Plus, it's not just about carbs. Many of us have probably eaten foods often deemed "unhealthy" — be they ramen noodles or frozen mac and cheese — simply because we couldn't afford anything else. We don't deserve to be labelled as "unhealthy" for trying to nourish our bodies with whatever was available. If you've ever marveled at how expensive a salad is in comparison to, say, a fast food menu item, you know what we're talking about.
"People who are gender-fluid don't identify with a fixed gender," says Liz Powell, PsyD, an LGBTQ-friendly sex educator, coach, and psychologist. "They may move back and forth between gender presentations and identifications, or participate in queering of gender by mixing masculine and feminine presentations." In short: Defining "gender-fluid" is very unique to each individual who identifies with the term. The same goes for which pronouns they prefer to use and how they might choose to present their gender on any given day.
For Leah Juliett, a 20-year-old New York-based activist and the founder of the March Against Revenge Porn, she identifies as both non-binary (not identifying with the gender binary system) and gender-fluid, and she uses the pronouns she/her and they/them. "I see gender as a solar system; it’s so vast and wide with so many options that you can’t really contain it to a small binary scale," she says. "Some days, I may feel more male; some days, more female; and some days, I may feel completely neutral and existing in that grey area." She also says that it's important to understand that her definition of gender fluidity does not speak for everyone.
"To me, being gender-fluid means that you have one gender identity that is not exclusively male or female; you are both combined, or a mix of these two binary genders," says Julien*, a 20-year-old who lives in Paris and uses the pronouns he/him, she/her, and they/them.
Of course, while words like "gender-fluid" may be new to the public vocabulary (The Oxford Dictionary didn't add "gender-fluid" until 2016), that doesn't mean existing outside of the gender binary is new. We just finally have a way to talk about it, which gives people language to discuss and explore their identity.
According to sexuality and gender psychotherapist Dee Dee Goldpaugh, LCSW, the increasing amount of resources explaining gender on the internet has been a key part in raising awareness that there are more ways to identify than just male or female. "This is how I found out that I was gender-fluid, and — oh my lord — it feels so good knowing that you can finally put a word on what describes yourself," Julien says. "I used to think that I was only a crossdresser until I discovered the word 'gender-fluid' and its meaning." That said, both Julien and Juliett say that you shouldn't feel rushed to place a label on yourself.
But the reality is that there are still a lot of people out there who don't understand what it means to be gender-fluid. And for a person who identifies as such, communicating with people who don't get it can be one of the most difficult aspects of being gender-fluid, says sex therapist Kelly Wise, PhD, who is transgender. Dealing with gender dysphoria (anxiety or pain over "a marked incongruence between one's experienced/expressed gender and assigned gender," according to the DSM-V) is one of the main issues Dr. Wise helps his patients manage. "If it’s unmanageable to walk in the world, where people see you one way, and you don’t see it [that] way, to the point that you don’t want to go and interact with the world, it’s important that we talk about it with the people who matter to you," Dr. Wise says.
And an important tool during these discussions is the language to talk about identities that exist outside of the gender binary. That, coupled with more media visibility (beyond Ruby Rose), will help make the world a more welcoming place for the so-called "gender-fluid generation."
*Last name has been withheld to protect identity.
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This story was originally published July 13, 2016.
In case you haven't noticed, we take sunscreenvery seriously around here. If you want to avoid skin cancer and delay the appearance of fine lines and wrinkles, you and your SPF should be in a loving, committed partnership. But, as with any relationship, you have to go through a vetting process first. That's because all sun protectors aren't created equal. In fact, one of the most common ingredients on sunscreen labels is seriously jeopardizing the health of the world's coral reefs.
A study published in October 2015 showed that oxybenzone, a popular UV-filtering ingredient, is threatening coral — especially in tourist-heavy areas such as Hawaii and the Caribbean. Not only does the chemical kill coral, it also causes early DNA damage that stunts the growth of the organisms living in it.
If you've ever been snorkeling, you know how magnificent coral is. Looks aside, some varieties are considered keystone species in our aquatic ecosystem, meaning many animals' lives are dependent on the colorful organism. Coral reefs are crucial to recreational fisheries, the tourism industry, and medical research. Coral has provided advancements in the treatment of certain cancers and HIV, so who knows what we could learn from it in the coming years — that is, if we don't run the reefs into the ground first.
Luckily, doing your part to minimize the damage couldn't be simpler: Carefully read your sunscreen labels and screen your potential purchases for oxybenzone. Instead, opt for mineral-based varieties that use zinc oxide or titanium dioxide, which protect without any guilt.
Click through this comprehensive list of the best oxybenzone-free sunscreens and find the right one for your lifestyle, whether you're into extreme sports or just need some daily protection for the commute to work.
Body & Sport Not only does its spray bottle make application foolproof, but this sunscreen is biodegradable, water-resistant for up to 80 minutes, and cruelty-free.
Alba Botanica Very Emollient Fragrance Free Clear Spray, $8.79, available at Walmart.
This water-resistant sunscreen contains non-nano zinc oxide, which protects the skin from UVA and UVB rays without leaving a white, streaky mess all over your skin. Plus, it contains aloe vera-leaf juice and antioxidant-rich green tea to soothe your skin.
BeautyCounter Protect All Over Sunscreen, $32, available at BeautyCounter.
Don't be put off by the "baby" label on this sunscreen stick: Its gentle formula (even the most sensitive skin won't get irritated) and high protection factor makes it a great one to throw in a gym or beach bag for on-the-go touch-ups.
Aveeno Baby Natural Protection Face Stick, $9.99, available at Walgreens.
Face For years, we cringed at the thought of applying a coat of greasy sunblock to our delicate, oil-prone faces. But things have come a long way, and there's now a slew of non-sticky options that promise protection sans pimples. This one from La Roche-Posay absorbs quickly and contains antioxidants to fight free-radical damage caused by UV exposure.
La Roche-Posay Anthelios 50 Mineral, $33.50, available at La Roche-Posay.
This silky, lightweight liquid protects the skin with an SPF of 50 while layering beautifully under makeup.
BareMinerals Mineral Shield Daily Prep Lotion, $30, available at BareEscentuals.
Not into liquid or cream formulas? No problem, because sunscreen comes in powder form, too. This one from Colorescience is an editor favorite and can be dusted onto bare skin or on top of makeup as a setting powder.
Colorescience Sunforgettable SPF 30 Mineral Powder Sun Protection, $57, available at Colorescience.
Moisturizer The good news: This doesn't contain any potential irritants like mineral oil, phthalates, or sodium lauryl sulfate, meaning it's great for sensitive skin. The bad news: SPF 15 is a bit measly, so top it off with another if you'll be spending a lot of time outside.
Yes To Carrots Nourishing Daily Facial Moisturizer, $14.99, available at Target.
This vegan moisturizer contains a host of powerful antioxidants, heavy-duty hydrators, and, of course, zinc oxide.
Éminence Tomato Day Cream SPF 16, $66, available at Dermstore.
We've been using this face lotion for years now, thanks to its ultra-light, super-hydrating, and non-irritating formula.
CeraVe Facial Moisturizing Lotion AM with SPF 30, $16.49, available at Ulta Beauty.
Tinted Tinted sunscreens are an easy way to cut down your morning routine. This one from Suntegrity offers sheer coverage and sun protection in one easy package.
Suntegrity 5 in 1 Natural Moisturizing Face Sunscreen, $45, available at Suntegrity Skincare.
This delivers just enough coverage to even out your complexion and give it a matte finish, but the downside is that it only comes in one, light-medium shade.
SkinMedica Essential Defense Mineral Shield, $38, available at SkinMedica.
This CC cream offers the highest SPF, and coverage that can compete with your regular foundation. Plus, the creamy formula leaves one helluva glow on the skin.
Need more sunscreen options? Hop on over to The Environmental Working Group for a longer list of other coral-safe options.
It Cosmetics Your Skin But Better CC+ Cream with SPF 50+, $38, available at It Cosmetics.
This goopy, green cream by Dr. Jart+ cancels out redness on the skin and utilizes potent plant extracts, like raspberry leaf, to soothe inflammation throughout the day, while also protecting against rays with oxybenzone-free SPF 30.
Dr. Jart+ Cicapair Tiger Grass Color Correcting Treatment, $52, available at Sephora.
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Australian supermodel Miranda Kerr is getting trolled online for comments that her fiancé, Snapchat CEO Evan Spiegel, allegedly made.
The hashtag #UninstallSnapchat went viral in India a few days ago, after an ex-employee, who was fired after just three weeks at the company, accused Spiegel of saying that Snapchat is "only for rich people" and that he didn't want to "expand into poor countries like India and Spain."
Snapchat denied the rumors and dismissed them as "ridiculous," issuing the following statement: "Obviously Snapchat is for everyone! It's available worldwide to download for free. Those words were written by a disgruntled former employee. We are grateful for our Snapchat community in India and around the world."
Whether or not Spiegel actually made the comments, Kerr did not make them and it's unfortunate that she's getting bullied online. Mashable reports that people are writing nasty comments to the 33-year-old on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. Because Spiegel isn't on social media (for instance, he hasn't tweeted even though he has an account), some people are choosing to rant at his fiancée. She has not responded.
"Leave Evan if you want to be happy, he is a pure racist and cheap mindset #RealTruth," said one commenter on one of her Instagram posts. A guy on Facebook called her a "Bloody gold digger."
On Twitter, one user told her, "tell your boyfriend @evanspiegel to say sorry for what he says about india."
Other commenters came to her defense. One wrote, on Instagram: "I am apologising on behalf of my country. You do not deserve the hate. WE don't even know if he actually said that. IT WAS NOT A DIRECT QUOTE!! Stop harassing her."
Reminder: Miranda Kerr and Evan Spiegel are separate people. It's far from confirmed that he even made those horrible comments — but either way, it's absurd that people are resorting to personal attacks.
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Update: Julia Kirby, one of Vallejo's victims, spoke to The Salt Lake Tribune about Judge Low's comments, saying, "If [Low] really, really cared about me or about the fact that this person was a criminal, he wouldn't have that kind of sympathy. It was shocking to me for that reason."
This story was originally published on April 18, 2017.
Former Mormon bishop Keith Robert Vallejo was sentenced to up to life in prison after a Utah jury found him guilty of 10 counts of forcible sexual abuse and one count of object rape. Despite all of this, Judge Thomas Low called the convicted rapist an "extraordinarily good man" while deciding his fate last week.
Vallejo has maintained his innocence, and more than 5o letters were submitted to the court in defense of his character. The defendant's brother also compared Vallejo to Jesus in his testimony, claiming they had both been wrongfully convicted. The prosecutor on the case, Ryan McBride, told the Associated Press the positive comments about Vallejo may have influenced Low's glowing review of him.
"He only cared about the person he was convicting, and I think that is really kind of despicable," one of Vallejo's victims told the Associated Press.
This isn't the first time a judge has made comments favoring a defendant over the alleged victim in a rape trial. Canadian Judge Robin Camp resigned last month after a disciplinary council called for him to be ousted following a rape trial during which Camp asked the woman why she couldn't keep her knees together.
In another case, Idaho Judge Randy J. Stoker blamed a 14-year-old girl's rape on social media, rather than on her rapist. Stoker allowed the convicted rapist to be released from jail on the condition that he not have sex outside of marriage while on probation, with no real way to enforce that directive.
Judges who give absurdly light sentences in sexual assault cases, blame victims, and call rapists "extraordinarily good" diminish the severity of rape. Their job is to hold convicted criminals responsible for their actions, and failing to do so perpetuates rape culture and sends the message to others that sexual assault isn't that big of a deal.
Utah civil rights group Restore Our Humanity plans to file an official complaint against Judge Low. "He did something that we see happening over and over from [positions] in authority dealing with these kind of cases: making the perpetrator into the victim, showing sympathy and praise for the perpetrator, and trying to make him into the victim," director Mark Lawrence told The Salt Lake Tribune. "It's completely inappropriate."
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From now on, we'll all be referring to this always-poised, long-celebrated fashion icon of former Spice Girl game as Victoria Beckham OBE. The British designer received her award, which was announced back in December, earlier today at Buckingham Palace.
"Wonderful day celebrating with my beautiful family," Beckham wrote on Instagram after the ceremony, showing off her medal. Oh, and as to what she wore for the occasion? Victoria Beckham collection, of course.
This story was originally published on December 29, 2016.
It seems like David will no longer be the only Beckham with a seal of approval from the British monarchy. On Wednesday, the Daily Mail reported Victoria Beckham will be awarded an OBE (or "Most Excellent Order of the British Empire") as a part of the Queen's "New Year's Honours 2017," for her contribution to the fashion industry, as well as her global charity work.
The former Spice Girl launched her eponymous label in 2008 and now shows womenswear collections twice a year at New York Fashion Week. And though many were quick to discredit her talents at the start of her design career, Beckham swiftly won over many key players in the industry, including Vogue editors Anna Wintour and Alexandra Shulman, who loyally attend her shows (she's also appeared on 17 different Vogue covers internationally).
Add to that the fact that Beckham employs over 150 people across offices in London and New York, has sales figures of more than $40 million, owns a flagship store on Dover Street, London's luxury shopping epicenter (as well as a second store in Hong Kong), and is set to launch an affordable off-shoot with Target next April, and arguments that she is undeservin g of the award seem a bit unfair.
Characteristically, Piers Morgan was one of the first to condemn Beckham's achievement, writing on Twitter: "BREAKING: Beckham to get OBE in New Year's Honours List. Presume it's Cruz for his services to pop music & charity work?" Journalist Sarah Vine agreed, writing on the Daily Mail that Beckham receiving an OBE is "beyond perverse."
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Beckham, however, has consistently spent time working with various charities throughout her career: She is a longtime patron of the Elton John AIDS Foundation and in 2014 was appointed UNAIDS goodwill ambassador. According to the UNAIDS site, "Ms Beckham has participated in high-level advocacy meetings and undertaken fact-finding missions to learn more about the epidemic. She has visited HIV clinics in South Africa, met children and women affected by HIV and learned about different intervention models. While on mission, she saw firsthand what a difference adequate access to treatment and prevention makes."
Similarly, she has been vocal in her stand against using fur in fashion, and has pledged that she will never work with the textile in any of her own collections.
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It took five-and-a-half seasons and a little sperm for me to love Girls.
When Hannah Horvath sat in the gyno's office, newly pregnant, totally alone, and surrounded by happy couples, she nonetheless looked comfortable with herself. And for the first time, I was comfortable with her, too.
For the preceding five seasons, she was nothing like me, despite the fact that I’m also a Brooklyn writer with unkempt eyebrows and broke-and-broken lovers and friends. Though I envied her sharp way with words, I found Hannah’s hyper-selfish personality unbearable. But then: Hannah got pregnant, and everything changed.
In episode 5, when she tenderly tells her Mom, “This is my baby,” I felt her, deeply.
Hannah chose single motherhood, too. And everything thereafter felt enormously relatable to me.
I, too, had a baby on my own. I was 38 and used an anonymous sperm donor — so I didn’t travel the exact path as Hannah, in so far as I arrived at pregnancy of my own volition. But Hannah chose motherhood, too. And everything thereafter felt enormously relatable to me. From breaking up with bad friends (in episode 6, she calmly tells Jessa to fuck off), to the ups and downs with good ones (see: Elijah), to that fever dream of popsicles and pain with Adam… I lived those things, too, and I didn’t bother talking to anyone about them because, well, who would get it? I didn’t realize how much I missed being understood until I was — by a show I thought I hated but nevertheless couldn’t quit.
And then there was Hannah’s burst of professional bravado. When she wobbles resplendent through a college campus to nail a job interview, the greatest achievement of her career as long as we’ve been watching, that was me in a muumuu pitching a TV show to Warner Brothers, praying for beginner’s luck, and a breakfast burrito.
It’s no small gesture that this series, which voiced a generation as lazy and entitled up to this point, chose to show a woman kicking life’s ass and coming into her own while pregnant. It eviscerated that cliché of women losing themselves in pregnancy only to become vessels, then graduating to be nothing but a faceless mom.
It eviscerated that cliché of women losing themselves in pregnancy only to become vessels, then graduating to be nothing but a faceless mom.
Pregnancy made me more focused on my work than ever before, and I’m not sure this would have happened if I had a more traditional, partnered life. While I was growing my kid, I sold that TV show and then another one. I filed one of my New York magazine columns, a Sex Diaries entry, from my C-section pre-op room. That Hannah is able to settle into a nice house at this moment in her life isn’t unbelievable, as so many critics have said. It’s her harnessing her newfound empowerment — partially because she has to, as the only adult in the family, but also because pregnancy can make you motivated and inspired in ways that getting peed on in Greenpoint does not.
Speaking of Adam: When he and Hannah get swept away in the idea of co-parenting, I felt both sides of the calculation she was no doubt crunching in her head. I saw the fantasy: not because of some heteronormative ideal that every baby needs a mother and father, but because I could see them doing “family” in a cool and still unconventional way. Then, I cringed: because I didn’t want Hannah to give up the unique autonomy of being a SMBC (single mom by choice). No one can ever tell single parents like us how to raise our children. That is a tremendous comfort most Marrieds can’t have. The way she cries in that diner shows she understands the gravity of what she’s undertaking, and the ultimate fallacy of that fantasy — even if she bought into it temporarily, too.
In letting Hannah continue to be complex, the show never made her choice to become a single mom feel dark. It did bear down into the emotional intensity of what was going on, but it nailed the woozy and enchanting Holy shit, I’m really doing this that a lot of pregnant women feel. I certainly did, with the added glow of a nd I made it happen for myself, which — projecting or not — I saw on Hannah’s face when she floated around the college campus, and later when she danced solo in her maternity overalls, hugging herself. All she needs.
In these scenes, I felt such a sisterhood with Hannah. There were days in my pregnancy that I felt a little lost, and I pushed through it, because, again, w ho would get it? So I had dinner parties, I dated a little, I worked. Hannah flirts on the subway, shops at trinket stores, turns up uninvited at engagement parties. Now I realize why I wept at every episode of her pregnancy — because I finally felt found.
Which is why I felt so betrayed when Hannah regressed to The Worst in the finale. Why, after evolving so much in season 6, did she have to revert to the self-centered stereotypical “millennial” that I resented and despised this whole time? Messy girls like us eventually tidy life up, in our own way and at our own speed. I thought we’d see Hannah handle her shit like the single moms I know. Or at least mostly handle it, like a Loralai Gilmore.
Like me, Hannah had a very privileged single mom experience: Healthy babies, nonstop help from family and friends. We both had safe homes, incoming work, and bright futures ahead. Why didn’t she recognize any of that? Where was the gratitude?
Look, parenting alone can be fucking brutal. I am not discounting the “emotional pain” of breastfeeding difficulties, with or without a partner. When Marni told Hannah to “envelope” her nipple, I think we all felt the daggers coming from Hannah’s eyes. I had to breastfeed my daughter while I violently puked from the flu — literally, breastfeed and vomit at the same time, totally alone, and I was scared as hell. I once had an explosive meltdown at JFK, after missing a flight with my screaming daughter. And that’s all nothing compared to fielding the “every child deserves a father” rant from religious Uber drivers, “concerned” friends, and more busybody internet commenters than I’d like to remember. It never stops being hard to hear. When Dill, Elijah's ex, went on about it, I literally put the TV on mute.
So I’m not begrudging Hannah for coming undone in the finale. No one has it together all the time — yes, even if you’re the only adult on the scene. And single moms need to know it’s okay to let yourself unravel when you need. It just hurt when Girls went from, “This is what family can look like today and let’s celebrate it” to, “Nah, no thanks. No one wants this single mom shit.”
Mostly, I wish they showed the love. Because just as the pressure and exhaustion of single motherhood are real, so is the wild, breathless, lawless love I feel for my daughter, Hazel, now 18 months old. I absolutely love our story. And no matter how ugly the day, I find holiness in our solitude. Glory in our aloneness. Hannah got there by the very last scene, but by then, I was so worn out by the temper tantrums and childishness (sleeping till 11? Running away from home?) that it was hard to see Hannah the Mom in a generous light. Everything was working in her favor except for her. And as a single mom, I took it personally that the show made, arguably the most popular and visible SMBC today, a terrifying (and terrified) mess.
Because as a single mom, whether you lose your friends or you lose your pants, when the show’s over, it’s on you to shine. I wanted that for Hannah. I want it for all of us.
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There's no question that people are obsessed with 13 Reasons Why. The series has resonated with many fans thanks to its unflinching depiction of bullying, sexual assault, and suicide. It's one of the many reasons why the series was named the most popular show on social media. Unfortunately, not everyone is taking the show's heartbreaking material particularly seriously: The internet has been flooded with 13 Reasons Why memes, which some argue trivialize the show's disturbing and important subject matter. Unfortunately, if you thought the "Welcome to your tape" memes were bad, users on the app Musical.Ly are here to be the absolute worst.
I totally missed the Musical.Ly boat, but from what I can gather from my 20-something perspective, it's an app that allows users to share short music videos, often in which they are lip syncing. That's super fun for when you can't get the latest Selena Gomez tune out of your head, but not so fun when you want to pay tribute to Gomez's new TV show's chilling message about a teenage girl's suicide.
Unfortunately, that's what the folks over at Musical.Ly are doing. People are sharing videos with a techno remixed version of Hannah's introduction to her 13 tapes — you know, the tapes in which she explained the reasons why she ended her own life. I can't discern if these videos are more creepy or just flat-out inappropriate — though I am heavily leaning towards the latter. Honestly, I'm just flabbergasted by the concept that anyone thought this was a good idea.
To be fair, most of these Musical.Ly videos seem to have been made by teenagers, who, as we learned from 13 Reasons Why, don't always do the appropriate thing. Still, I can't help but wonder... why?!? Why did Hannah's suicide tapes need to be memed? Why were so many people compelled to put these Musical.Ly videos out into the universe?
Fortunately, there are plenty of folks on Twitter who think these videos were equally as bad of an idea, even if their language is a little harsh:
If you make a musical.ly to 13 Reasons Why, please know I hate you.
If you are thinking about suicide, please call theNational Suicide Prevention Lifelineat 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or the Suicide Crisis Line at 1-800-784-2433.
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The new season of The Bachelorette cannot get here fast enough. We're pretty much obsessed with Rachel Lindsay, the first Black Bachelorette — and May 22 just feels so far away right now. That's why even the tiniest breadcrumb is super exciting news in Bachelor Nation — and even the smallest detail won't go unnoticed.
On Tuesday, ABC released the first official promotional poster for season 13 of The Bachelorette. At first glance, it looks like pretty standard fare. Lindsay is stunning in a gorgeous ball gown that turns into rose petals in the requisite red. There's the premiere date, the hashtag... but there's something missing from the ad. Can't quite put your finger on it? We have to be honest: Neither could we, at first.
As Jezebel first pointed out, the poster is missing a tagline. You know, a quippy little phrase to set the man or woman giving out the roses apart from their predecessors.
Nick Viall 's was "Fourth time's a charm," alluding to the fact that he has appeared on the franchise three times before. JoJo Fletcher's was "From Ben to 26 men." Ben Higgins' himself had this one: "A perfect ten Ben." (Though we begged to differ at the time.) And Andi Dorfman's tagline was a wink at her relationship with former Bachelor Juan Pablo: "She's looking for the right Juan one. (Click through to see all the promos.)
So, why doesn't Rachel Lindsay get a cutesy little tagline? (Not even a lame pun? Something?) Lindsay may be one of the most intelligent, accomplished, and charming women to ever appear on the franchise — and she's making history. Why not let a little of her personality shine through?
My guess: ABC didn't want to make light of the significance of the fact that Lindsay is Black, which might be a wise move after all (though they obviously could have chosen something else to focus on). We can live with the lack of a tagline — annoying but not egregious — as long as Lindsay gets the amazing cast of men she deserves and a real shot at love. And we'll be tuning in May 22 to find out.
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JoJo Fletcher( The Bachelorette, Season 12)
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If you're looking for your new Netflix obsession, look no further than The Keepers, a murder mystery that dares to ask the question, "Who killed Sister Cathy?"
Like Making A Murderer before it, this docu-series, which is produced by those behind that aforementioned series, deals with an unsolved murder that has rocked a community. With The Keepers it's the mysterious murder of a 26-year-old nun in Baltimore, Maryland. Netflix has finally released the first trailer for The Keepers, premiering May 19 , and it's clear, a lot of us are going to be busy that weekend.
The short clip begins by giving us some background on the "quintessentially Catholic city," letting us know it's a place where the priests are in charge, but it's not devoid of corruption. It sets the scene for a city that is not without its secrets, one of which is what happened to Sister Cathy.
The nun, who the documentary says "exemplified this spirit of compassion and kindness," was murdered in 1969, but her death still haunts this city. It's why former students and those who knew Sister Cathy are still looking for answers all these years later. The question is, will they find them?
The trailer posits some possibilities of what could have happened. Did Sister Cathy know something about the local high school where she worked and threaten to speak out about it? The scene of a woman saying she could "testify that over a hundred victims have been abused," hints at what the scandal could have been.
The clip also asks whether the local and state police were protecting the priests. It also questions whether there were those in the city who actually knew what happened. As one woman says, "My father said to my mother, 'Want to know why I drink? Because we killed a woman and we put her behind the shop."
It only took two minutes, but Netflix has already got us hooked on this seven-part series.
Nine months seem like a long time, but once you or your partner actually gets pregnant (if that's your plan), you may find yourself rushing to cover all your bases before your infant arrives. And no matter how much time you have to prepare for a child, there's no way to know exactly what it will be like when the day finally comes. So it's only natural to have a few should-haves.
A recent discussion thread on Reddit posed a question on this very topic to current moms: "What do you wish you'd discussed with your spouse/co-parent/babydaddy before making a baby together?" If you thought pre-baby prep would be a snap, the wide range of responses will certainly be educational.
Of course, no mere mortal can be 100% prepared for parenthood before they're in the thick of it. But, for all the parents-to-be out there, we've rounded up some helpful responses from this discussion thread to give you a better idea of what to look out for.
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"What you would do if an ultrasound came back with issues. We hadn't considered that as we were young and healthy, but both pregnancies had major scares. Being married to a Catholic while I myself am not meant we had very different opinions [than] I thought. Turns out, we were on the same page, but that could have ended up horribly."
"I wish we would have considered moving closer to one of our parents. We are six hours away from one set of grandparents, and 11 from the other. No aunts and uncles, no cousins. And in our circle of friends, we are the only couple who has chosen not to be child-free.
"We are so, so, so alone in this. Child-free friends are still my friends, but it's just impossible to hang out with them. They go to art shows that start after bedtime, brunch during nap time, group vacations to Mexico, and we only have a few hours a day to spend with our little guy, so we like to use as much of it as possible.
"Some people are great at making new 'mom friends,' but I'm not. I never understood why some women push their friends into having a baby, but now I get it. I still never will, but I get it.
"Babysitting is expensive, (good) daycare waiting lists are long, and I would give anything for my mom or his mom to be around to watch him and just be another face in his life."
"How we were going to share the role of disciplinarian. Unfortunately, it seems to default to me. I don't mind being the one who enforces rules, but I wish he'd be more active in backing me up. He's never contradicted my rulings (time out, no cartoons, etc), but he also never takes initiative in correcting bad behaviors on his own."
"I wish I had made arrangements with him to have kept us fed for the first few days (at least) after delivery. I am a good cook, but I nuked an innocent beef roast and vegetables to ash, because I not only had baby brain, but I was exhausted. Apparently, I shut the timer off and left the roast in the oven. Nothing left but ash. Man, the tears from that one event followed me for days."
"How to make sure we each can still get self-care time, and what that self-care time will look like. Is it going out with friends, taking a quiet bath, taking a class, etc."
"Everything. Including his depression and my bipolar and our problems we'd been having. My son was a surprise. We ended up separating shortly after I found out I was pregnant, and we didn't get back together until after he was born, after going to counseling. I wish we had gone to counseling in the first place, it would have made pregnancy so much easier."
"His expectations of what I would actually be doing on a day-to-day basis while on maternity leave, as he was the sole income. I assumed that I needed to keep the house spotless, all chores done, dinner on the table when he got home... (the stuff that would slide when I was working full time). Of course, in reality, the house was even more of a mess, and I spent a couple of months feeling guilty, but when I actually spoke to him about it, he was understanding that I had my hands full as a FTM, and just because he was paying for everything, I didn't have to suddenly keep everything ship shape."
"Finances, emotional security, 5-year plans, but most of all how we would handle a separation if/when it happened. Not because I was looking for one, but because if we'd talked about it, there would have been a lot less pain for all involved."
"I wish we had talked about postpartum help and postpartum mental health more. I needed more help — physically and mentally — than I was getting, and because I kept saying, 'It's just because I'm tired,' he took that at face value.
"After the next one was born, I'd come clean about just how close to a breakdown I'd gotten and so we planned for a lot more help — meals in the freezer, my husband's step-mom to stay for two weeks to help (everyone needs someone like her...I nursed the baby and slept, and she ran everything else like clockwork), sessions with a counselor already planned.
"I say it now with no shame that I had wicked postpartum anxiety that was torqued up by too many sleepless nights in a row, and I hope that when I tell people that, it gives them knowledge and courage to speak up if they (or their partner) needs help."
-Reddit user Hurras
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When Sophia Amoruso was a dumpster-diving 22-year-old in Portland, the very last thing she probably expected was that, in less than 10 years, she’d become a millionaire CEO. Or that, in the year 2017, Netflix would be rolling out an original show about her life called Girlboss. And yet, both of those things happened.
Before binging Netflix’s Girlboss, set to drop on April 21, it’s wise to acquaint yourself with Amoruso’s legacy — both its triumphs and its controversies. While the fictional account starring Britt Robertson is pretty sensational, Amoruso’s life doesn’t need too much sprucing up to make entertaining. There are enough twists and turns to keep you hooked until the very last slide.
It just goes to show that life is a long, winding, and unpredictable road. Think of Sophia Amoruso as a millennial Cinderella, weaving vintage rags into veritable riches before our very eyes.
Let’s get to know the subject of the tale, shall we? When Sophia was 22, she planted seeds for a company that would blossom into Nasty Gal. Ten years down the line, the 32-year-old entrepreneur has an estimated net worth $280 million.
How the heck does one travel from struggling anarchist to millionaire? In the case of Amoruso, it doesn’t take an Ivy League degree or rich parents. It just takes business sense, branding, and quite a bit of pluck.
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Sophia was a wild child, in a wild childhood.
While Girlboss takes place in San Francisco, Sophia wasn’t always based in the City by the Bay. Due to her family’s financial situation, she moved around California often. Amoruso ended up attending 10 schools over the course of her 12-year education.
School wasn’t really Amoruso's thing. In fact, her fourth grade teacher used to send home a litany of her daily misbehaviors.
Here’s how she puts it in her memoir #Girlboss: “I felt [school] was the Man’s way of training America’s youth to endure a lifetime repeating the behaviors taught in school, but in an office environment. I felt like a prisoner.”
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She attributes her success to a string of "shitty jobs."
Before becoming the CEO of a multi-million dollar corporation, Amoruso went through a phase of “job promiscuity," as she puts is. In her early teens and 20s, she worked at Subway, Borders, two orthopedic shoe stores, a hydroponic plant store, a dry cleaner, and a restaurant, which she quit after one day.
Her last job pre-Nasty Gal was working as a campus safety host in the Academy of Art University in San Francisco.
Amoruso says she got a lot out of that phase in her life: “What all of these jobs taught me is that you have to be willing to tolerate some shit you don’t like — at least for a while. This is what my parents’ generation would call 'character-building,' but I call it #GIRLBOSS training.”
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For a while there, she was a straight-up anarchist.
At the age of 15, Amoruso found the philosophy she'd been looking for in anarchism. She aspired to be wild, free, and liberated from a 9-to-5.
So, at 17, she left on her anarchist Great Adventure, which involved hitchhiking to Olympia, Washington, dating someone who lived in a tree house, dumpster-diving for Krispy Kreme donuts, and decorating her house with stolen goods.
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She had a history of stealing.
How did this anarchist support herself? By preying off the capitalist suckers, that’s how. While living in a commune of anarchists in Olympia, Amoruso started a book shoplifting scheme. She checked Amazon for the bestsellers, stole them from stores using her friend Mack’s special technique, and sold them on Amazon for ten cents less than other sellers.
In # Girlboss, Amoruso details her money-making schemes, and the different techniques she used for swiping assorted items, from wine to rugs. But she was 20, she stopped stealing cold turkey and moved to San Francisco.
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Nasty Gal was born from a competitive spirit.
While living in San Francisco, vintage was all the rage. Amoruso said her own decade was the ‘70s, and regularly dressed in polyester pants and platform shoes.
After being bombarded with emails from eBay vintage stores, Amoruso decided she could do that, too. She had the eye. She had the drive. All she had to do was learn the business.
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The meaning behind “Nasty Gal”
It’s simple: “Nasty Gal” was named after an album by the funk singer Betty Davis (not to be confused with Hollywood diva Bette Davis).
Amoruso was inspired by Davis’s unapologetically fierce attitude and unique fashion sensibility. As she wrote in Girl Boss, “I thought I was just picking a name for an eBay store, but it turned out that I was actually infusing the entire brand with not only my spirit, but the spirit of this incredible woman.”
It all begins in a pool house.
By day, Amoruso was bouncing from estate sale to estate sale, unearthing vintage gems. But she needed a place to store her treasures. So, she moved somewhere cheap: a pool house with no kitchen, which cost $500 a month to rent.
After that, she was attached to a chaotic 24/7 schedule of MySpace marketing, photo shoots, customer support, and paying models with burgers and Starbucks (seriously).
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There’s trouble in eBay City.
By the time she was 23, Amoruso’s auctions were making about $2,500 a day. But the community of other eBay vintage sellers weren’t amused by the wild child. A controversy resulted in Nasty Gal getting booted off eBay.
Amoruso took this as an opportunity to push Nasty Gal to the next level. She bought the URL nastagalvintage.com, and moved from the pool house to a larger space.
From there, Nasty Gal was well on its way.
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There’s trouble in Nasty Gal city.
For some time, Nasty Gal was on a surefire trajectory to success. Recently, though, the company has come under public scrutiny.
For one, there have been multiple accusations of copied designs. In 2013, jewelry designer SaylorRose accused Nasty Gal of stealing her designs. Amoruso responded by saying, “Congrats, you've been knocked off. It's a rite of passage." Later in 2013, the bag designer Sophia Webster publicly accused Nasty Gal of the same thing.
But it was in 2015 that the real trouble brewed. Amoruso stepped down as CEO amidst public complaints and lawsuits from former employees, who claimed they were unlawfully terminated and treated badly.
Then, Nasty Gal fired for bankruptcy and closed all brick-and-mortar stores.
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So then what’s #GIRLBOSS?
While Nasty Gal has been experiencing some ups and downs, Amoruso has poured her energy into creating an ethos for herself, and that ethos is #Girlboss, the name of her memoir and personal philosophy.
What makes someone a Girlboss? In Amoruso’s words, “A #GIRLBOSS is someone who’s in charge of her own life. She gets what she wants because she works for it... You’re going to take over the world, and change it in the process. You’re a badass.”
Put that on a pillowcase.
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Girlboss comes to Netflix.
Amoruso’s life and times come to Netflix in an original TV show, “loosely” based on true events. The show stars Britt Robertson as Amoruso, and Ellie Reed as Annie, Sophia’s (fictional) sidekick and BFF for life.
While Nasty Gal may have encountered trouble, executive producer Charlize Theron doesn’t think that diminishes Amoruso's story, as portrayed in Girlboss.
“I love the idea that we should encourage girls to not feel, at 19, that they're too young to chase their dreams. There's a world to do what they want to do, and that's what I want to support,” Theron says.
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Girlboss comes to Netflix on April 21.
Now that you know the preliminary context, you can jump right into Girlboss like Sophia, long ago, dove into a dumpster for a Krispy Kreme.
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P.K.’s lengthy, shady, uncomfortable appearance made the point once and for all: husbands should stay as far away from Housewife drama as possible. There’s a reason this show isn’t called the Real Househumans Of Beverly Hills.
Dorit Kemsley’s partner had a major role in RHOBH season 7 tensions, as he’s the man who looked up Erika Jayne’s skirt when she wasn’t wearing underwear at a dinner party. The wardrobe malfunction eventually snowballed into An Entire Thing, with P.K. telling his wife he "didn’t mind the view" and later making disgusting comments about Erika in the season 7 finale "Diamonds Under Pressure."
P.K. came out to discuss his insulting behavior in part 1 of the reunion, and, yet, he was still on the couch for part 2.
During the the music managers relentless on-stage residency, Erika reveals she wanted P.K. to apologize to her husband Tom Girardi for staring at her vagina and then bashing it with multiple people. While Tom definitely isn't in charge of Erika’s body, the Kemsleys did put a potential strain on the Girardis’ marriage with all their gossip and slut shaming — that’s worth apologizing for.
P.K. refuses any such thing, telling Erika, "I don’t owe Tom an apology. If the circumstances were reversed, he wouldn’t owe me one. I owe you an apology for the joke I made. I didn’t do anything against Tom." This is especially hypocritical since Mr. Kemsley has been attacking Erika on his wife’s behalf since the beginning of time, yet, when the dance pop singer requests some respect for her own husband, she’s wrong.
Despite P.K.’s admission he made a bad "joke" about Erika’s vagina, he completely backtracks his statement moments later to a place where he’s the victim. "I’ve been so punished for that joke, I know it was self-induced, but since then I’ve listened to [Lisa] Rinna call me a pervert and say, ‘Ew.' I’ve listened to Eileen [Davidson] suggest I’m some sort of creep," he bemoans. "I just made a bad joke, that’s all I did."
What P.K. is missing about this is that’s the reaction you get when you make multiple comments about a woman’s friend’s genitals on camera. If Dorit’s husband had stayed out of Housewife drama in the first place, no one would ever want to discuss him. Take Kyle Richards’s wonderful husband Mauricio Umansky or Rinna’s spouse Harry Hamlin. Both men have made it their business to stay out of the Bravo fray, so no one is branding them a leering Tom. P.K., on the other hand, was lurking around the big finale argument for quite some time until Erika finally called him over from the shadows to deal with him face-to-face.
Erika even calls P.K. on this fact, telling the Brit — who claims to be very busy — at one point, "You have enough time to be here, though. My husband doesn’t… Are you going to hold a diamond [in the RHOBH intro] next year?"
Not only do all of P.K.’s comments of this past season eventually devolve into desperate grab to turn the businessman into a Bravolebrity in his own right, everything also drips with misogyny.
The father of two alleges he’s sucking up camera time to protect his wife, but Dorit is an adult woman. She joined the show knowing what to expect from an Andy Cohen production and doesn’t need a knight in shining armor to speak up for her. No one else has one of those. And when P.K. tells Erika she’s "inherently cold," it sounds just like some strange man on the street telling a woman, "Smile, you’ll look prettier."
Lyft is taking a proactive approach to safety this 4/20. Tomorrow, the day of the unofficial weed-smoking holiday, the ride-sharing company is partnering with the Colorado Department of Transportation (CDOT) to offer discounted and free rides throughout the state.
“Our goal for this partnership with Lyft is to encourage marijuana users to treat marijuana consumption just like drinking, and always plan to use a sober ride,” said Sam Cole, Safety Communications Manager at CDOT, in a press release about the collaboration.
According to the CDOT, 17% of DUI arrests in 2016 involved marijuana and an alarming 55% of people who use the drug think it’s safe to drive under the influence. Word to the wise: It isn't.
For those taking the high road tomorrow, it’s more important than ever to find a safe way to travel from one place to another. Lyft discounts will be given to riders who are picked up in specially-branded green cars that say “Plan A Ride Before You’re High” on the side. If you got a promotional code from 320movement.com, which was offered online last Sunday, you can also use that tomorrow.
The one downside is that only those celebrating in Colorado, one of four states where weed is legal, can score a free or discounted ride. Still, if you’re partaking in 4/20 elsewhere, make sure you're still planning ahead. A pooled ride is a smart way to save cash and be safe.
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In an interview with ABC News' "Popcorn with Peter Travers" on Tuesday, Hathaway said she may have accidentally encouraged misogyny years ago. The Oscar winner told Travers that while filming One Day, which was released in 2011, she didn't trust director Lone Scherfig as easily as she trusted male directors.
"I really regret not trusting her more easily," Hathaway told the Rolling Stone film critic of Scherfig. "And I am, to this day, scared that the reason I didn't trust her the way I trust some of the other directors I work with is because she's a woman."
Hathaway even suggested she had dealt with "internalized misogyny" toward the director.
"I'm so scared that I treated her with internalized misogyny," Hathaway told Travers of Scherfig. "And I'm scared that I didn't give her everything that she needed or that I should have, because I was resisting her on some level. It's something that I've thought a lot about, in terms of when I get scripts to be directed by women."
It's clear that the conversation wasn't comfortable for the Colossal star, as she avoided making eye contact with Travers while making the difficult statements. "I'm getting red talking about this, it feels like a confession, but I think it's something we should talk about," she said.
"When I get a script, when I see a film, a first film directed by a woman, I have in the past focused on what was wrong with it. And when I see a film directed, first-time directed by a man, I focus on what’s right with it," Hathaway added. The actress said that she wants to change her way of thinking, and hopes that speaking out might change how others view female-directed films, too.
The actress also said that she'd call Scherfig to apologize. "I hold her in such a dear place in my heart," Hathaway said of the director. Check out the emotional interview below.
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