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The Steamiest, Sexiest Movies Of All Time

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The sexiest movies aren't necessarily lurking in the adults-only section of HBO — or in the deleted archives of one's browser history. Often, the steamiest films are mainstream. Whether a flick actually features a crazy-hot love scene or a more innocent tryst between a forbidden couple, it's perfectly acceptable to find these movies tantalizing. Let's be real: That was totally the filmmaker's point.

As a celebration of the sexiest films to ever grace the big screen, we've rounded up a collection of movies that have a history of encouraging sexy thoughts. While turn-ons are as varied as people are, these movies certainly attempt to evoke certain feelings in all of us.

Is it hot in here? Nope, it's just these movies. Click through to read about the sexiest movies to inspire endless fantasizing.

Body Heat(1981)

Set in Florida during an intense heatwave, this is a movie about passion, heat, crime, and a lot of sweat. Ned Racine (William Hurt), a shy lawyer, starts a passionate affair Matty Walker (Kathleen Turner), the wife of a big shot businessman. Ned teams up with one of his criminal clients to kill Matty's husband, so the two can run off together. Of course, Ned finds himself way over his head. Not even the hottest sex can save him now.

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Out of Sight(1998)

What happens when you pit George Clooney's notorious bank robber against J-Lo's Federal Marshal on the hunt? Chemistry, of course. In addition to being steamy, this witty movie received almost universal acclaim from critics.

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Kama Sutra: A Tale of Love(1996)

You'd expect that a movie with the title "Kama Sutra" would be sexy, and trust us — it delivers. Set in 16 century India, Kama Sutra is about two childhood friends who become sexual rivals in their womanhood. Tara becomes engaged to the king, and her best friend Maya is groomed into becoming his mistress. This cannot end well, though at least there are drawn-out sex scenes along the way.

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Carol(2015)

This gorgeous period piece tells the story of a timid shopgirl who becomes romantically involved with a wealthy housewife. The movie's sexiest moment comes when a couple takes a road trip away from Carol's husband and steam up a motel room. What makes Carol a great film, however, are the satisfying journeys of self-discovery that both women embark on.

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Original Sin
Sure, the movie was slammed by critics. But upturned noses can't take away from the crazy chemistry between leads Angelina Jolie and Antonio Banderas in this period piece set in Cuba during 19th century Spanish rule.

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Vicky Cristina Barcelona (2008)
The artist-and-his-muse archetype gets revamped in this Woody Allen flick. The Spanish setting is romantic enough, but all bets (and clothing items) are off when you add in the allure of the painter, his colorful past lover, and the promise of a new one.

Streaming: Amazon

Photo: Courtesy of Metro-Goldwyn-Mayer.

9 1/2 Weeks (1986)
If there's anything sexier than Mickey Rourke as a Wall Street mogul having an affair with Kim Basinger, we've yet to find it. This movie upped the ante on what erotic means in Hollywood.

Streaming: Amazon

Photo: Courtesy of Metro-Goldwyn-Mayer.

Lust, Caution (2007)
A young, virginal woman is tasked with seducing a most dangerous enemy. Thrilling romance follows.

Streaming: Amazon

Photo: Courtesy of Focus Features.

I Am Love (2009)
Visually stunning, I Am Love is one of those movies you can't look away from. The veneer of the perfect family, under the guise of bougie Italian culture, is questioned in this battle over old and new. The meal scene is a must.

Streaming: Netflix

Photo: Courtesy of Magnolia Film.

Y Tu Mamá También (2001)
Two teens embark on a road trip when they encounter a stunningly free-spirited woman who helps them discover intimacy and themselves.

Streaming: Netflix

Photo: Courtesy of IFC Films.

House Of Pleasures (2011)
Instead of submitting to men, the women of this French brothel know how to dominate them.

Streaming: Amazon

Photo: Courtesy of Haut et Court.

From Here To Eternity (1953)
The scene with Deborah Kerr and Burt Lancaster kissing on the beach is iconic and unforgettable.

Streaming: iTunes

Photo: Courtesy of Columbia Pictures.

Unfaithful (2002)
This movie, despite how disastrous Diane Lane's affair is, will make you want to pull your lover into the nearest restaurant bathroom and get it on immediately.

Streaming: Amazon

Photo: Courtesy of 20th Century Fox.

Cruel Intentions (1999)
Ah... young, rich, pretty people galavanting through hedonism and the recklessness of youth.

Streaming: Amazon

Photo: Courtesy of Columbia Pictures.

Eyes Wide Shut (1999)
Fifty Shades might be all kinky and whatnot, but Stanley Kubrick's sex party is one for the cinematic ages.

Streaming: Amazon

Photo: Courtesy of Warner Bros.

Fallen Angels (1995)
Visually, this movie is the definition of sexy. Story-wise, it'll tear you to pieces.

Streaming: Netflix

Photo: Courtesy of Kino International.

Malèna (2000)
It should go without saying that Monica Bellucci's mere presence amps the sensuality of any film to new heights. But, this coming-of-age tale demystifies the act of growing up and into one's own sexuality.

Streaming: Netflix

Photo: Courtesy of Miramax Films.

Bound (1996)
Whoever said a sexy movie needed a heteronormative seduction story hasn't seen the Wachowskis' crime thriller. Two femme fatales are better than one.

Streaming: Unavailable

Photo: Courtesy of Gramercy Pictures.

Weekend (2011)
This movie from Looking creator Andrew Haigh is a watershed for queer cinema. Not only does it present an insightful story about a homosexual romance without ostentatious stereotypes, it presents gay sex as perfectly normal.

Streaming: Netflix

Photo: Courtesy of Sundance Selects.

The Dreamers (2003)
Though the film treads the incest line, The Dreamers prompts audiences to question sex with people outside of their "type." Plus, Eva Green just exudes sexuality.

Buy: Amazon

Photo: Courtesy of Fox Searchlight Pictures.

Love & Basketball (2000)
For once, a movie that focuses on the reactions to sex and sexuality rather than the actual act. Love & Basketball made it feel like the first time.

Streaming: iTunes

Photo: Courtesy of New Line Cinema.

The Piano Teacher (2001)
Dark, but moving, The Piano Teacher doesn't shy away from the shame that sex can generate. There's something inherently sexy about that kind of rawness.

Streaming: Netflix

Photo: Courtesy of Kino International.

Basic Instinct (1992)
Everyone knows this movie for Sharon Stone's interrogation scene, but the sex scene is also incredible. Even more than that, Stone's entire aura is divinely sexy.

Streaming: Netflix

Photo: Courtesy of TriStar Pictures.

In The Mood For Love (2000)
Not only is this film a fabulous study of couples seeking other arrangements, but the costume design exudes sex appeal.

Buy: Amazon

Photo: Courtesy of USA Films.

28 Hotel Rooms (2012)
This is what happens when your one-night stand turns out to be something more. Enjoy the ride.

Streaming: Netflix

Photo: Courtesy of Oscilloscope Laboratories.

Mr. & Mrs. Smith (2005)
So, their actual marriage has gone to hell. But these two gifted us one of the hottest angry sex scenes, ever. Plus, who doesn't want to watch Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt cinematically get it on?

Streaming: Amazon

Photo: Courtesy of 20th Century Fox.

How Stella Got Her Groove Back (1998)
Angela Bassett and Taye Diggs gave us all too high of expectations for what shower sex could be.

Streaming: Amazon

Photo: Courtesy of 20th Century Fox.

Take This Waltz (2011)
Michelle Williams has always been subtly sexy, and this scene takes the cake — both artistically and sexually.

Streaming: Netflix

Photo: Courtesy of Magnolia Pictures.

Elles (2011)
Juliette Binoche is the definition of French chic. Her portrayal of a woman seeking to rediscover her sexuality through researching prostitutes is as inspiring as it is enticing.

Streaming: Netflix

Photo: Courtesy of Memento Films.

Betty Blue (1986)
An erotic drama that opens with an in-your-face sex scene, Betty Blue presents sex without any gimmicks. The most shocking thing about the sexuality is how not shocking it actually is.

Streaming: Amazon

Photo: Courtesy of Gaumont.

Sex, Lies, And Videotape(1989)
For once, a movie with as many blunt conversations about sex as there are sex scenes.

Buy: Amazon

Photo: Courtesy of Miramax Films.

A Single Man (2009)
Tom Ford's screen adaptation of Christopher Isherwood's novel is far and away the most sexed-up title on this list. However, it's sexier than the rest because Tom Ford has his hand in every bit of this film. Everything from the styling, set design, soundtrack, and coloring is sleek. This is eye candy.

Streaming: Netflix

Photo: Courtesy of The Weinstein Company.

Breathless (1960)
Jean-Luc Godard's debut feature film is one of the reasons we're all slightly obsessed with the effortlessly cool French look and life.

Streaming: Amazon

Photo: Courtesy of Rialto Pictures.

Secretary (2002)
Let's be real: This is the original Fifty Shades. This movie does more than depict sadomasochism, it celebrates it.

Streaming: Amazon

Photo: Courtesy of Lionsgate.

Blue Is The Warmest Color (2013)
This French film explores a romance between two young women and shows the excitement of experiencing true intimacy for the first time. Check it out for the sweet romance, stay for the sexy, sexy scenes.

Stream: Netflix

Photo: Wild Bunch

Mulholland Drive (2001)
Naomi Watts and Laura Elena Harring find very sexy romance as they attempt to solve a bizarre mystery in David Lynch's steamy neo-noir.

Buy: Amazon

Photo: Universal Pictures

Savages (2012)
Is it hot in here, or is it just the polyamorous relationship between the three beautiful leads? Blake Lively, Taylor Kitsch, and Aaron Taylor-Johnson play marijuana farmers who get tangled up in a Mexican drug cartel — but not before getting tangled up in one another.

Buy: Amazon

Photo: Universal Pictures

Brokeback Mountain (2005)
Yes, this movie is devastating, but you also can't find two better-looking guys than Heath Ledger and Jake Gyllenhaal to hook up in a tent.

Buy: Amazon

Photo: Focus Features

Closer (2004)
Closer isn't filled with sex scenes, but the deep kisses and smoldering looks exchanged between the four gorgeous actors are enough to get anyone hot and bothered.

Buy: Amazon

Photo: Columbia Pictures

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The Internet Isn't Pleased With Katy Perry's Latest Instagram Post

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Katy Perry is the latest celebrity to be accused of cultural appropriation. The singer shared an image of the Hindu goddess Kali Ra on Instagram Wednesday with the caption "current mood." Commenters were quick to point out the potential offensiveness of the post.

"It's not right to use god as a meme you can't just post god and use it as 'current mood'. As you're basically trying to say oh look I'm so like god. Which is very rude and disrespectful," one such commenter notes in a lengthy post. Another begged Perry, "Please delete this. This is not current mood you don't know the real truth behind this pictures respect every religion!!!!"

For every irate commenter, though, there is a fan defending Perry. One wrote cheerfully, "Katy babe you're the best! Ignore the haters!"

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The bulk of the criticism seems to be aimed at the fact that Perry effectively memed a Hindu god. By taking the image and applying the term "current mood" — a common meme across social media platforms — Perry took what for some is a holy image and made it into a "current mood" meme.

This is far from the first time Perry has been accused of cultural appropriation. The singer donned a Geisha costume at the 2013 American Music Awards. This was widely seen as both an instance of appropriation and of yellow face. Similarly, in a video for her song "Dark Horse," Perry dressed as an ancient Egyptian.

Perry has previously addressed the subject in the press. "I guess I'll just stick to baseball and hot dogs, and that's it," Perry said in an interview with Rolling Stone. "I know that's a quote that's gonna come to fuck me in the ass, but can't you appreciate a culture? I guess, like, everybody has to stay in their lane? I don't know."

In another instance, Perry performed alongside backup dancers dressed as mummies with large backsides and exaggerated red lipstick — many thought the dancers were costumed as stereotypes of Black women. Regarding that performance, Perry said, "As far as the mummy thing, I based it on plastic surgery. Look at someone like Kim Kardashian or Ice-T's wife, Coco. Those girls aren't African-American. But it's actually a representation of our culture wanting to be plastic, and that's why there's bandages and it's mummies. I thought that would really correlate well together… It came from an honest place. If there was any inkling of anything bad, then it wouldn't be there, because I'm very sensitive to people."

Perry has yet to respond to commenters requesting she remove the post.

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Blink & You'll Miss Beyoncé & Jay Z At Their Friend's Party

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Would you be able to keep your cool if you spotted Beyoncé and Jay Z seated across from you at a friend's birthday party? I sure as hell would not. I'd be in a cold sweat, panicking over whether I was staring too long at them, and creeping them out. Or if I was allowed to say hi, or if I'd dare to ask for a picture with the music royals. It would be a dream come true to wine and dine in the presence of Queen Bey, but it would also be a nightmare of nerves.

But since I will never find myself seated across from Bey and Jay (especially not when she is glowing and pregnant with the two most talked about twins in the world), I will just have to settle with these few snapshots and videos from a private birthday party for the senior VP of Roc Nation, Lenny Santiago (who is known more commonly by his nicknames, Lenny S. or Kodak).

Blink and you may miss the couple seated on the far side of the table in the video below, taken by a bold party guest. In it we can hear Beyoncé singing "Happy Birthday" with all the party guests as the music executive is presented with a monstrous custom cake.

ET reports that guests saw the couple share a kiss at the table. The source, who apparently was in attendance at the party, also shared that Kelly Rowland was there and that the two former Destiny's Child bandmates, and close friends, chatted candidly. Bey and Jay have known Lenny for over two decades, ever since he helped promote Jay Z as an up-and-coming rapper way back in the day, so it makes sense that the very pregnant singer would make this appearance a priority.

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This Is Why You Need Tinted Sunscreen In Your Life

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I don't wear foundation. Is that because I have clear skin? Or do I have clear skin because I don't wear foundation? This is one of the great skin-care-versus-makeup, chicken-or-the-egg questions. Or perhaps they have nothing to do with each other? The world may never know.

But this does not mean I completely forgo a little extra boost of cover-up confidence. I've just found a workaround: tinted sunscreen. Every morning after I moisturize, I slather on a layer of SPF with a matte tint on my face to even out my skin tone and protect me from the sun on the regular. Bonus: Some experts believe SPF with a tint can actually protect your skin better than its clear counterpart. That is what I call a win-win.

I opt for a tinted sunscreen over a BB cream for its higher sun-protection power, since I'm already getting the skin-care benefits from my cream (and, hey, SPF is anti-aging, too). And for those who could never give up their base makeup, the light coverage of a tinted sunscreen is a great option if you don't want to go bare-faced at the beach or pool.

Ahead, tinted sunscreens for your perusing pleasure.

Is it a tinted sunscreen, or a tinted moisturizer that just happens to have sunscreen? Hard to say, but this full-coverage cream has been at the top of every best-seller list since its release. The UVA/UVB broad-spectrum SPF is unbeatable, the amount of natural-looking, color-correcting coverage is exceptional, and the infusion of anti-aging ingredients like hydrolyzed collagen, peptides, hyaluronic acid, and antioxidants is just another reason we (and everyone else) can’t get enough.

IT Cosmetics Your Skin But Better CC+ Cream with SPF 50+, $38, available at Sephora.

The Urban Environment Tinted UV Protector not only guards your skin against the sun with broad-spectrum SPF 43, but also protects against environmental pollution (city girls, looking at you). It also doubles as a makeup primer and has some skin-care benefits, too. Bonus: Unlike some of its counterparts with limited color options, this formula comes in three shades!

Shiseido Urban Environment Tinted UV Protector Broad Spectrum SPF 43, $32, available at Nordstrom.

If you’re looking for a worthwhile splurge, this smooth-as-silk tinted sunscreen is packed with anti-aging benefits and will make your skin glow as you recline poolside, mojito in hand. No moisturizer needed.

Sisley Paris Tinted Sunscreen Cream SPF 30, $170, available at Nordstrom.

From one of our favorite French pharmacy brands, this is a great option for those with darker skin tones. Bonus: Its powerful, antioxidant-rich, SPF 50 mineral formula is great for those with sensitive skin.

La Roche-Posay Anthelios 50 Mineral Tinted Ultra-Light Sunscreen Fluid, $33.50, available at Ulta Beauty.

This is the sunscreen I use every day in place of foundation or BB cream. It gives full, yet light, coverage and also protects against free-radical damage and the supposed stuff we may (or may not be) getting from our computer screens. It's a little pricey, but wearing it makes me feel like I am doing my part in the skin-care struggle.

SkinMedica Total Defense + Repair SPF 34 Tinted, $68, available at SkinMedica.

From another derm-favorite brand comes a more affordable UVA/UVB broad-spectrum, tinted face sunscreen. This formula works on most skin tones and packs SPF 50!

SkinCeuticals Physical Fusion UV Defense SPF 50, $34, available at Dermstore.

This ultra-light sunscreen has less of a tint and more of a shimmer. It works on most skin tones and is a great base for makeup. But it stands on its own, providing a perfect day-at-the-beach glow.

ZO Skin Health Oclipse® Smart Tone SPF 50, $70, available at ZO Skin Health.

This unique SPF 50 formula comes in compact form, perfect for easy beach or poolside touch-ups for those who swear by foundation on the regular. It's also great for sensitive skin.

Avène High Protection Tinted Compact SPF 50, $36, available at Drugstore.com.

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11 New Sunglass Brands You Should Have On Your Radar

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If sunglasses have been falling a little short on your to-buy radar, you might want to think again. And no, we're not about to spout off the health benefits of protecting your retinas (though, you should!). Instead, we're here to offer a PSA that there are some pretty cool things happening in the world of shades.

A typical scenario when it comes to shopping for specs usually sees us making the the same rounds at the two for $20 Urban Outfitters counter. But, there's been a revival in sunglasses designers gravitating towards funky shapes vs. your standard aviators. From celebrity favorites to designers who have expanded their accessories collection and yes, even some under-$100 options, there's more places than ever to pick up a pair of shades you'll love enough to actually care about.

Before you start planning your summer road trip looks, these are the 11 brands you should be looking to for sunglasses no one else has.

Giant Vintage
If you're wondering where everyone on Instagram is getting those too-cool-for-school shades (you know, oversized, bug-eyes that look fresh off the Gucci runway, super-skinny black pairs straight out of The Matrix), Giant Vintage is basically It. For affordable retro frames (some vintage, some vintage-inspired), you'll be hard-pressed to not find a style (or 12) that you'll love.

Giant Vintage Jetz White, $20, available at Giant Vintage.

Giant Vintage Jojo Wine, $16, available at Giant Vintage.

Giant Vintage Funked Black/Pink, $22, available at Giant Vintage.

Raen
At Raen, you'll find all of your favorite classic styles, but kicked up a notch — and its latest Luxury Wig collection proves just that. Raen is ideal for the shopper who knows their preferred frame shape and is looking for something that's on-trend, but also affordable.

Raen Nomi Sunglasses, $180, available at Raen.

Raen Flatscreen Sunglasses, $150, available at Raen.

Raen Potrero Sunglasses, $185, available at Raen.

Alice + Olivia
Stacey Bendet is well-known for mixing kooky and feminine in a way that gives us "gimme" vibes. Bendet's latest endeavor is a collection of sunglasses, which launched in February, that is just as whimsical as herself and her brand. You'll even find a pair or two designed after her own signature oversized statement sunglasses.

Alice + Olivia Dinah, $295, available at Alice + Olivia.

Alice + Olivia Palm Canyon, $350, available at Alice + Olivia.

Alice + Olivia Stacey, $295, available at Alice + Olivia.

Perverse
Who doesn't love anything under-$100? All of Los Angeles brand Perverse's sunglasses fall under the affordable category, and all of its styles push the boundaries of edgy and stylish.

Perverse Herondo, $45, available at Perverse.

Perverse High Street, $60, available at Perverse.

Perverse SYL, $58, available at Perverse.

Krewe
If you've already heard of Krewe, we wouldn't be surprised. The brand was founded in 2013 by Stirling Barrett, a New Orleans native, but in the past two years, its exploded to become a celebrity favorite (even with Beyoncé!). Its colored lens, wire-framed designs are a refreshing reminder that we don't have to take our style too seriously.

Krewe STL II, $335, available at Krewe.

Krewe Toulouse, $215, available at Krewe.

Krewe Ward, $295, available at Krewe.

Smoke x Mirrors
Speaking of celebrity faves, Smoke x Mirrors is another new brand with a cult influencer following. Its collection is full of geometric shapes and edgy styles that you've probably found yourself tapping "like" for on one too many fashion blogger Instagrams.

Smoke x Mirrors Sugarman, $295, available at Smoke x Mirrors.

Smoke x Mirrors Geo IX, $350, available at Smoke x Mirrors.

Smoke x Mirrors Sodapop IV, $395, available at Smoke x Mirrors.

Westward Leaning
Think classic style-meets-mirrored lenses, and you get Westward Leaning. The brand's popularity has exploded since it's launch in 2012, thanks to Hollywood's obsession with it. (Olivia Palermo even jumped on board and designed a collaboration with them). Here, you'll find both your beloved square frame sunglasses, as well as double bridged aviators.

Westward Leaning Dyad 06, $295, available at Westward Leaning.

Westward Leaning Pioneer 29, $185, available at Westward Leaning.

Westward Leaning Sphinx 01, $275, available at Westward Leaning.

Grey Ant
It's been a little over five years since the clothing brand redirected towards becoming a full-time eyewear collection, and it's more than paid off. The New York-based label finds a happy medium between subtle, everyday eyewear and fashion-forward styles that encompass the hustle and bustle of city style.

Grey Ant Diskov, $360, available at Grey Ant.

Grey Ant The Foundry, $280, available at Grey Ant.

Grey Ant Notizia, $420, available at Grey Ant.

EyeBuyDirect
EyeBuyDirect focuses on offering trendy optical glasses at affordable prices. Recently, it launched an enviable sunglasses selection, all for under-$100. The kicker? You can even get polarized lenses installed into your shades.

EyeBuyDirect The Keys, $29, available at EyeBuyDirect.

EyeBuyDirect Joplin, $52, available at EyeBuyDirect.

EyeBuyDirect Enzo, $42, available at EyeBuyDirect.

Vuarnet
Vuarnet is not a new kid on the block by any means, but we are just rediscovering how much we love the brand. (Seriously, how can anyone not be obsessed with its Rag & Bone collaboration?) For us, though it's these goggle sunglasses that take the cake. We're hoping they become more of a street staple in winters to come.

Vuarnet Glacier, $600, available at Westerlind.

Vuarnet 1604 Square Cable Car, $295, available at Westerlind.

Vuarnet 1613 Edge Round, $320, available at Westerlind.

Haze
Launched in 2013, Haze has found its niche in reinterpreting what eyewear should look like. The brand's collection is heavily influenced by architecture with sharp lines, but it's the color options and embellishments that have us weak in the knees. An ordinary square frame becomes that much cooler with a metal waffle one.

Haze Edge, $280, available at Haze.

Haze Bond, $276, available at Haze.

Haze Coz, $365, available at Haze.

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5 Habits R29's Creative Director Swears By

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By now, the scrappy origin story behind Refinery29 has become the stuff of media legend. It all started when Christene Barberich and Piera Gelardi, work wives at CITY magazine, teamed up with Philippe von Borries and Justin Stefano to start a tiny website dedicated to emerging NYC designers, which — smash cut to 10 years later — became the platform we know and love today.

In the site’s many incarnations, executive creative director Gelardi has done more than shape the look and feel of the site and stack its visual team with forward-thinking talent — she’s pioneered a new way of thinking about art’s role in women’s media. Under her direction, Refinery29 has shown what a vibrant, diverse, and unapologetically feminist approach to women’s stories looks like, and, in so doing, she’s dared other sites to keep up. Meanwhile, initiatives like 29 Rooms and the 67% Project bring the spirit of R29 — experimental, inclusive, thoughtful, playful — alive both on the site and in the world at large.

Gelardi's belief in images as shapers of the world fuels her passion for visual creations with a sense of purpose. You could call what she does “conscious creativity” — ideating something that is fully rooted in her values, open to feedback from the public, and intentional about the impact she wants to make.

In honor of Girlboss, the Netflix show based on Nasty Gal’s Sophia Amoruso (another patron saint of the side-hustle-turned-dream-job), we spoke to Gelardi about how she nurtures her creativity, finds inspiration in tough times, and brings a sense of passion and play to every day. Ahead, she tells us five things she does to stay inspired and creative.

"Nurturing my curiosity and seeking external inspiration — beyond my immediate job description — has been a great source of enhanced creativity for me. It pushes me outside my comfort zone, exposes me to new ways of doing things, and influences my growth as a whole person.

At R29, we give employees a $500 yearly education stipend, so I recently used mine to take an improv class. It taught me so much about loosening up, letting go of inhibitions, and using the 'yes and' approach. I now find myself able to think on my feet in unexpected ways, which has enhanced my public-speaking skills and ability to come up with ideas on the spot. I often incorporate some improv exercises into my brainstorms at work. Anything you can do to break up your routine and refresh your perspective is key.

Travel is another way to do this. Immersing yourself in a different place, exploring a unique way of life, and documenting the things you see is a great way to develop your eye. You don't even need to go far to do this — it can be as simple as going to a different neighborhood and taking pictures. You never know when something you’ve seen is going to resurface as a grain of inspiration."

Illustrated by Paola Delucca.

"So much of my creativity comes from the meaningful interactions and conversations with people around me, and it requires vulnerability to do that authentically. At work, I try to create an environment where people feel comfortable trying new things. It can’t be about perfection and competition, because then everyone freezes, self-censors, and is afraid to pitch an idea. It’s part of my job to help people go beyond those self-imposed limits.

In brainstorms, I try to make a safe and nonjudgemental environment for everyone — you’d be surprised how often one person’s quirky (or even plain bad) idea sparks a really great one for someone else. When people start to feel stuck, I'll have everyone literally shake it out — another improv warm-up I learned. It might look ridiculous, but it releases tension, creates a bond out of shared playfulness, and levels the playing field because we're all allowing ourselves to be vulnerable together.

I think a lot about the power of humor to fuel creativity. There's a pattern I've seen again and again: The best ideas come when you let your guard down. I try to be the one who throws in the most absurd suggestion, which — hopefully — gives other people permission to leave their inhibitions at the door."

Illustrated by Paola Delucca.

"The traditional advice is to suppress complicated emotions in the workplace. But you need access to those feelings if you want to create something with impact. I try to build structures that allow people to constructively access their emotions.

After the election, there were a lot of complex feelings in the air, so I set up time to talk openly and brainstorm ways we could channel those emotions into action. That meeting ended up being therapeutic, community-building, and a source of lots of potent, diverse ideas.

Creating environments where people can talk about what’s on their mind and really listen to each other has the potential to connect us to something much bigger. It's powerful when you can — as Carrie Fisher said — 'take your broken heart, make it into art.'"

Illustrated by Paola Delucca.

"I think sometimes we can get too obsessed with the outward trappings of success or what we thought our lives would look like at a certain time or age. What I've found is more important to me is living true to my authentic self, understanding what really motivates me, and knowing that comparison really is the killer of joy.

Living authentically can sound like a great idea, but there's no rule book or guideline for staying on track. A few years ago, I took a weekend to myself and made this World According To Piera document. It's like a manifesto. I wrote down things that are my true passions and most deeply held beliefs — for example, one is, 'I believe that the images we see have the power to shape the way we see ourselves and the world.' Another is, 'I believe you're never done growing.' I also wrote down the things that truly motivate me like 'the entrepreneurial spirit.'"

I’ve tweaked it slightly over the years, but it’s mostly stayed the same, and I refer back to it all the time. My job description has evolved a million times over the years, and I've needed to take on new roles and responsibilities. Every time I do, I go back and look at the manifesto to make sure what I'm doing is aligned with The World According To Piera. It helps me remember what's non-negotiable for me — and gives me the freedom to be flexible on everything else."

Illustrated by Paola Delucca.

"When you get stuck creatively, you often focus on what went wrong. You go down a rabbit hole, fixating on the deficit. But it's so important to pay more attention to those moments when you really hit it out of the park. Was it because you meditated that morning? Or took the time to make breakfast? Or even listened to a song that really amped you up?

For me, it's opening up a magazine and doing word association, surrounding myself with imagery, or bringing someone in the room that I'm super comfortable with. It's different for everyone, so figure out what inspires and motivates you. Once you establish your patterns, you can create the right conditions for creativity. It's really powerful."

Illustrated by Paola Delucca.

Want more inspiration? Watch the first season of Girlboss on Netflix — all episodes available April 21.

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A Thorough History Of Leslie Jones & Russell Crowe's Beautiful Friendship

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The most fascinating part of Time 's annual list of the 100 Most Influential People — besides seeing who made the cut, of course — is reading what famous people have to say about each other. ( Time recruits friends and peers from the honorees' respective fields to sing their praises in the winner entries.) Some Hollywood highlights on the 2017 list include Cate Blanchett on Sarah Paulson, Brie Larson on Emma Stone, Meryl Streep on Viola Davis, and Tina Fey on Donald Glover. You'll notice that all of these pairs have either worked together, forged similar career paths, or are BFFs.

And then there's... Russell Crowe on Leslie Jones. This especially random coupling — of the woman who took over the Rio Olympics and wins SNL on the reg with the guy known for his roles in movies like Gladiator and The Cinderella Man — is amusing in itself. But then there's what Crowe had to say about Jones:

"She's a tiger.
She's a lioness.
She's a pussycat."

I know. But then he continues on a surprisingly sweet note: "It wasn't just the comedy that drew me close to Leslie Jones. Although her brand — edgy, insightful and honest — is the kind I lean to. It wasn't just the bonhomie, the easy friendship and the shared sense of gratitude. It wasn't just the beauty, though it radiates from her unchecked. It was, in fact, the kindness, the thoughtfulness and the way she owns all of who she is." He continues to wax poetic about Jones' greatness before powerfully concluding, "Yes, it was Leslie Jones who drew me close to Leslie Jones."

How beautiful is that? So beautiful that it inspired me to take a sentimental look back at that "easy friendship" that the unlikely pals share. Here is the wonderfully touching history of the friendship between Leslie Jones and Russell Crowe.

This is Crowe and Jones laughing it up while filming a promo for Crowe's first SNL appearance in April 2016. In the promo, Jones tries out aggressive pickup lines on Crowe and they play a drinking game. On the actual episode, they share a skit in which Jones plays a ninja rescuing a kidnapped woman from a Russian mobster played by Crowe.

This is the beginning and the end of the story of Leslie Jones and Russell Crowe's friendship.

Thank you for reading.

Photo: Dana Edelson/NBC/NBCU Photo Bank via Getty Images.

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This HONY Post Speaks A Truth About The Struggle Of Dating

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Finding a relationship can be hard, and sometimes the "will we, won't we" of dating can be seriously detrimental to your mental health.

Even though going for long stretches without a relationship can be very isolating (if you want one), it's not uncommon to feel like you'll end up alone. Which is why we can relate to a recent Humans of New York story posted with a photo of a man from Colombia.

“I think I’m obsessed with the idea of finding a girlfriend," he said in the post. "I think about it all the time. I really want to know what it feels like. I’m twenty-four. I’ve never been in a relationship. I’m terrified by the idea of being alone."

He explains a sense of desperation that he feels has affected his chance at having a relationship in the past.

"The last girl I dated told me that I just needed to ‘let it flow,’ and ‘see what happens.’ But I don’t know how to do that. I tried too hard to please her."

His anxiety about whether they were or were not together ruined the relationship, he said in the post. "She felt like my last chance to not be alone," he said. "When I finally get a girlfriend, I’m not sure how it will feel. Maybe it will be great. Or maybe then I’ll just be terrified of losing her.”

While it's possible that he feels more anxiety than most about finding a relationship, he describes something that seems familiar — at least to me.

A former partner once told me that she always planned to be married by 30 (she was 29 at the time and our relationship certainly wasn't headed toward marriage) and just the other day my mom told me that I "sure am taking my time" to find someone who will love me forever. I'm 25.

Maybe it comes from romantic movies or from previous generations who found their true loves just out of high school, but there seems to be a pressure to find "the one" before you hit 30 and your life is over.

And it's not just me and this guy from Colombia who feel the pressure. Several people have commented on his post with their own stories of dating woes.

Others on the post have offered the same advice as the last girl this guy dated. "Just let if flow" and "see what happens."

While it's not the easiest thing to do when it feels like the clock is ticking away in the background, this seems like pretty good advice. Worrying about finding your "one true love" takes all of the fun out of dating. And at 24, and 25, this guy and I still have plenty of time to find someone.

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26 Perfect Conversation Starters For Your Next First Date

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In the best-case scenario, you go on a first date with someone, and you hit it off. The chemistry is off the charts, and you're never at a loss for what to talk about.

Sometimes (okay, most of the time), though, first dates aren't smooth sailing. That doesn't always mean you're incompatible — just that we are humans, and dating can be awkward. It can be hard to figure out what to ask without making it seem like you're interrogating your date. After all, the key to a good date is relaxed conversation, and the last thing you want is to recreate the beginning of this scene from The Holiday, in which Cameron Diaz essentially makes Jude Law's palms sweat from her interview-like first-date demeanor.

But whether you're trying to fill an awkward silence or just trying to get to know your date better, we have you covered. We sent out an anonymous survey to get people's best, most creative first-date questions. Ahead are the ones that stood out to us most. Check them out, and if you want, leave a comment with some of your own go-to conversation-starters.

What's the weirdest job you've ever had?

"Humility is important to me, and it's interesting to hear how people got to the place they are today."

How did you come out?

"It gives me a sense of how they grew up and also how they handle a big, stressful, life-changing situation. It usually ends up coming up in conversation, but I find myself steering it that way, and then asking when it seems right or normal to."

What's your most embarrassing New York City story?

"The Big City can be a very weird place whether you live here or have only visited. This lets me see if the guy takes himself too seriously and is able to laugh at himself. It's also an easy way to tell if he's a good storyteller (which is important to me!). I like when people ask about memories or stories, because it's a very concrete way to relate to someone, and it gives people insight about your personality by the details you includes and the mannerisms you use to tell the story."

Where have you traveled?

"I love to travel myself, so I want to know if the person I'm dating has been to interesting places, or is open to jet-setting with me!"

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Are you into sports?

"You can hit them up when a game is on, and if they don't like the same teams as you, a little friendly competition can turn into fun banter."

How are you getting home?

"What better way to seal the deal, if you know what I mean?"

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Who is your favorite Kardashian?

"The answer to this question will tell you everything you need to know about a person. (Hint: The correct answer is always Kim.)"

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Do you like reality TV?

"It's totally cool if the person I'm dating isn't into The Bachelor or anything, but they have to respect that I am!"

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Do you like coffee or tea?

"How else will I know what to make for you in the morning?"

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What's on your bucket list?

"It's fairly important to me that someone I date has ambitions and has 'a zest for life,' if you will."

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What's your favorite song to dance to?

"I've been known to tear it up on the dance floor, and I need someone who can keep up!"

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Who in your family are you closest to?

"I have a soft spot for mama's boys. More often than not, it shows that they can respect women — uh, just as long as he's not too close to his mom."

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Are you a morning person or a night person?

"This works because it helps to see if your schedules align, or if you're destined to be up cooking breakfast alone while your potential S.O. sleeps in."

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Who do you live with?

"This might be more of an NYC/big city question but since most people these days can't afford to live alone, it's always good to suss out your date's living situation — in case you'll one day be meeting these roommates."

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Tell me about your friends.

"Friends of friends are often hit-or-miss, and unfortunately, friends-of-significant-others can be even more hit-or-miss. That being said, it's good to try to feel out a potential S.O's friends early on!"

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What's your favorite food?

"I spend a good chunk of my waking hours either eating or thinking about food, so I like knowing what other people are eating!"

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What books have you been into lately?

"It's like John Waters said: 'If you go home with somebody and they don't have books, don't fuck them.'"

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Are you more of a cat or dog person?

"I am vehemently a cat person and I need a potential S.O. to be cool with that."

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What do you like to do when you're not working?

"I feel like living in NYC, everyone is pretty much married to their jobs, but even if you really love what you do, you've gotta have a life outside of that."

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What kind of music do you listen to?

"Ask anyone who knows me: Music is the biggest part of my life. I love being able to share that with someone. If we don't [already] have any favorite artists in common, [introducing them to new stuff] can be a really great way to get to know each other."

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Describe yourself in one word.

"It sounds really interview-y, so I only pull this one out when the conversation is dying and I'm trying to revive it."

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How did your parents meet?

"Everyone loves a great story! Asking how someone's parents met opens the conversation to their relationship with their parents."

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Where do you work?

"Maybe it's a little boring, but I always like to ask where someone works, or what they do for a living. I feel like it opens the conversation and then you can find out if they're passionate about what they do, and if not, what they would rather be doing instead."

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If you could visit any time period in all of history, what would it be?

"I'm a huge history buff, so I like knowing what everyone else's favorite historical period is! Plus, I like to think it's a thought-provoking question that'll spark some good conversation."

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What movies have you been interested in recently?

"Okay, someone's taste in movies isn't the be-all, end-all, but it does tell you a little more about them. Are they a Pulp Fiction fan, or are they more Animal House? Or both?!"

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What's your relationship with your family like?

"This isn't so much a question as a socialization philosophy. I like to be as real as possible with people on a first date. Recently, it was 'What's your relationship with your family like? Oh, it's bad? Mine too. Tell me more.'"

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What's your favorite TV show?

"First things first: Find out if you're binge-compatible."

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Where did you grow up?

"If you're on a first date and you want to get to know the person, start by asking about who they are and where they grew up."

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Who would play you in the movie of your life?

"You can tell a lot about someone by how they answer this question."

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Do you like reality TV?

"I ask because I love it, and anyone who knows about the Kardashians or Real Housewives gets brownie points."

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Twitter Has A Lot Of Feelings About This $400 WiFi-Enabled Juicer

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Yesterday, Bloomberg published a piece about Juicero, which it explains was one of last year's most highly funded gadget startups in Silicon Valley. Chances are, you've heard about the device, which some have called the Keurig of juicing, because it's been in the news quite a bit over the past several month. Juice bars using the $400 smart juicers have been set up in Southern California locations of Whole Foods, and Oprah even recently bought one for every cast and crew member of Wrinkle In Time as a wrap gift. Just this past weekend, Katy Perry posted a video of herself cooling off with a carrot juice from the Juicero pop-up juicing station at Coachella. Unfortunately, one of the main points discussed in the recent Bloomberg piece about Juicero is that the juice inside the packs that go into this $400 machine can actually be squeezed out by hand, which some might say renders the expensive device obsolete. Bloomberg even went so far as to make a video demonstrating the methods. Take a look:

It should come as no surprise that when Twitter saw the video comparing making juice using the $400 Juicero with simply squeezing it out of the bag by hand, a lot of users had plenty to say. In typical Twitter form, people posted some seriously hilarious reactions. Here are a few of our favorites.

The last one, though we know it was meant to be a joke, might not be the worst idea for the company. In fact, in the article Bloomberg even quoted a Los Angeles food business owner who thought wants to see Juicero make the juice packs available to people who can't afford the hardware. For now though, sales of the $5 to $8 juice bags are limited to owners of the $400 Juicero machine.

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Shawn Johnson Explains Why Her First Year Of Marriage Was So Difficult

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Gymnast Shawn Johnson has a message for anyone getting married: It's not always easy. And it's especially not easy when your husband is Andrew East. Johnson, who married the NFL player in 2016, says the first year of their marriage was stressful, and that they barely got to see each other thanks to the athlete's crazy schedule.

"It’s been the craziest year of our lives,” the 25-year-old told People. “One day doesn’t look like the next for us!"

The morning after the couple's wedding, they immediately hopped on a plane to Oakland so East could train for the Raiders. A few months later, Johnson flew to Rio to commentate the Olympics.

"We lived out of a Hampton Inn for four months and we cooked from our hotel room," she revealed to People. Each time they thought they were settling down, life threw another curveball.

"It was a long few months, we went through hard things,” Johnson continued. "He got cut from the NFL and tried out for another team, we were both going through stressful times in life."

Finally, however, things seem to be calming down. Now, the couple lives together in Nashville, and are "happier and more in love than ever."

"I love him more every single day," Johnson told People. "The first year is the hardest and best year of your life!"

She commemorated their anniversary on Instagram, writing:

"Exactly one year ago today I was made the happiest girl in the world by being officially pronounced Mrs. East. @andrewdeast you are my best friend and the love of my life. Happy One Year Anniversary my love!"

The love of my life. @andrewdeast #anniversary #myman

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"The love of my life," she added in honor of the milestone.

While things definitely got difficult, it laid a strong foundation for the couples future. They've been through that, so they can go through anything. Here's to many more (hopefully less stressful) years!

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This Man Had The Best Way Of Keeping His Wife Company During Her Cancer Treatment

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Last October, Mackenna Newman's mother was diagnosed with thyroid cancer, and had to undergo cancer radiation treatments that forced her to be isolated in her room.

However, Newman's dad made sure that his wife wouldn't have to be alone.

On Friday, Newman tweeted a photo showing how her dad found a way to keep her mom company: by setting up his own space, right outside of her bedroom.

"My mom has to stay in her room in isolation for her cancer radiation so my dad set up a desk at her door to keep her company and I'm crying," she wrote.

"I just thought it was sweet because they are so in love," Newman told BuzzFeed. She also told BuzzFeed that her dad was right outside her mom's room "the entire time."

Since she posted the photo on Twitter, she and her family have received an outpouring of love from the internet.

"The amount of love I've received is crazy and I didn't expect any of it, but I'm so grateful," Newman told BuzzFeed.

Her mom, Marci, also told BuzzFeed that the gesture is pretty typical for her husband.

"Jon goes to every doctor's appointment, every blood test, every surgery, every radiation," she told BuzzFeed. "And, as you can see, if he can't be by my side he is as close as he can get!"

Newman tells Refinery29 that while Marci's cancer had spread into her lymph nodes and trachea, she has been able to get the cancerous tumors removed, and will now have to attend regular checkups to ensure that no new tumors develop.

And sure enough, she'll have her husband and daughter by her side through it all.

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Is Everyone Annoying Or Are You Just Sensitive?

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You know those days when it seems like everyone on planet Earth is testing your patience? Someone on the street walks too close to you and gives you a flat tire. Or the terrible sound of your roommate chewing at the top of her lungs rattles through your apartment. Other times, your partner has the audacity to ask how your day was — like a real monster! If everything annoys you all of the time, that's actually very normal, and the reason why probably has to do with your old friend, anxiety.

"If someone is an anxious person, they're generally irritable and can feel thrown by things easily," says Andrea Bonior, PhD, clinical psychologist. "They're easier to be upset, to be hurt, and sometimes they're really sensitive to sounds and stimuli." Basically, someone who's generally anxious and tense across the board is going to be annoyed easily, too.

It might seem like these frustrations are all in your head, but there is a physiological reason why you feel so pissed off. "Someone chronically anxious has their nervous system on high alert at all times, so you're not only jumpy and scared but irritable," she says. And for some people, realizing that you're annoyed can make you even more annoyed, which is... awesome. When your nervous system is lit up, you really can't help but respond (positively or negatively) to whatever's in front of you, no matter how minor it actually is.

You also tend to be a little snippier when you haven't slept well, Dr. Bonior says. "The more under-slept you are, the more threatening your view is of your environment," she says. "When you're not well-slept, things appear more annoying because you're thinking about them in a negative way." Boredom can also increase irritability, because when your mind is wandering a lot, you might notice things that you wouldn't otherwise, she says. Luckily, you can always try to get more sleep, or keep yourself occupied, but there are also some more invariable, harder-to-fix reasons why things constantly piss you off.

If you're a rigid person with super-high standards about the way you run your life (like, you're the type to reorganize the dishwasher after it's been loaded), then it could seem like the rest of the world might not be up to your standards all of the time — which will annoy you, Dr. Bonior says. "You might have a personality type that is just inflexible and unyielding, so you have a hard time relaxing on the rules and being able to roll with the punches and accept that things aren't always going to be the way you want," she says. The reason why you feel like you have to correct someone's grammar constantly or clean your desk every day could just be a byproduct of how you were raised. "Usually, it comes from some experience with it in our childhood," Dr. Bonior says. "Something we grew up with that drove us crazy."

For others, there are particular stimulants that drive them bonkers, like the injustice of getting cut off while driving, or hearing someone talk too loud on a cell phone in public. People who can't stand the sound of someone chewing, might have misphonia, which is an actual condition. "That's something different, because your brain processes the stimulants differently," Dr. Bonior says. Either way, it's totally normal to have things annoy you, and just because your partner cracks their knuckles or leaves cabinets open at home, that doesn't mean you really hate them. But keep in mind that, if you're perpetually annoyed by one person, larger issues might be at play. "We might keep it in and resentment builds, and sometimes we do get more annoyed by small things if there's a bigger thing we don't talk about," she says.

And remember: Other people's habits might not be fixable, but the way you react to them is. When you're feeling off-the-charts annoyed, you should focus on what your body is doing, Dr. Bonior says. "A lot of times, we're tense, and we're annoyed that we're tense — it's a cycle," she says.

Instead, Dr. Bonior suggests doing some simple deep breathing exercises that will help center yourself in the moment. A lot of times, mentally reciting a mantra like, "I am here," will help bring you back into your body, and allow you to react conscientiously, rather than impulsively, she says. Starting a gratitude journal can also be useful so you can tap into the things that are going right in your life — and write a short novel about why it's totally obnoxious that someone cut in front of you in line at the coffee shop this morning.

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5 Hilarious Wedding Hosts That Can Bring Life To Any Party

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Everyone appreciates a person that can crack a few jokes. A charming disposition and quick wit are especially handy at a wedding, where dozens of friends, family, and acquaintances are expected to sit through a full day of formalities together. This is why a great master of ceremony is the secret weapon for a successful big day: Tossing in appropriate humor here and there livens up the processions and will keep guests from being glued to their phones.

To show you how it should be done, we've rounded up a few star emcees that even you — a total stranger — can enjoy. Whether they are professional hires or a relative pulling double duty, these laugh-out-loud moments certainly made them crowd favorites. Ahead, heart-warming, spontaneous and downright outrageous wedding host moments that will make you chuckle.

This husband-and-wife duo kicked things off with a cute safety demonstration mirroring the ones you see (and promptly ignore) during a flight. It's a fun way to remind everyone the directions to the restrooms, the wedding hashtag, and to all sign the guest book.

The poor video quality here is excused by the hilarious "wrong speech" cold open. The lady — a cousin of the bride — then lays it on with a burn about her husband's performance in bed. She wraps things up with a humorous speculation about the guest who bought the cheapest wedding gift — and made sure to name names. Nicely done.

These ladies won over the crowd by dressing alike and alternating words in the beginning of their emcee speech. They also followed up with a killer rendition from The Sound of Music. When in doubt, singing always helps perk up the crowd.

There's no better way to break the ice than to start your speech half-naked — and with a striptease. Adult supervision is advised for this one!

This bilingual host in Malaysia has a genius trick up his sleeve to get everyone all riled up: By making the newlyweds kiss for as long as the guests can hold their breaths while chanting and raising their glasses. (The epic kiss starts at 0:45)

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We've seen our fair share of creative marriage proposals, but this one — in which a guy asked his girlfriend to marry him while she was mid-air doing an acroyoga pose — checks so many #goals boxes that we're just plain awestruck. Couple goals? Check. Fitness goals? Check. Spirituality goals? CHECK. Travel goals? Oh, god, check. We just want to be this couple, okay?!

Alec Horan and Steph Gardner had been dating and practicing yoga together for two years, taking photos in all sorts of poses that it would take most of us many more years of ClassPass-hopping to be able to do. He had been planning the proposal for months.

"I planned a trip to Hawaii this March, and also had the ring custom-made, it was all planned out," Horan told The Daily Mail.

During their 10-day vacation in Oahu, Hawaii, the Pennsylvania couple did a lot of beaching and yoga-ing, as one does. Right before the proposal, Horan and Gardner were in a pose in which he had his legs up in the air, holding her up as she fell backwards. She looked back at him upside-down and he popped the question right then, while balancing her. They even kissed mid-air and she somersaulted back gracefully.

See the video below:

This is a moment when I would most definitely either fall on the guy or awkwardly tumble to the side, getting my butt all sandy — not to mention that I would have major difficulty getting into the pose itself. I am a person who has actually fallen on people while attempting headstands in yoga class. But Gardner didn't even wobble.

After she "stuck the landing," he proposed in a more traditional way — on one knee. They had a professional photographer on hand for the whole event, which Gardner didn't find weird because they're yogis who like to film themselves.

"I had been sitting on the ring for about four months. I felt like Gollum from Lord of the Rings," Horan told Inside Edition. "I was nervous for the whole 10 days in Hawaii."

They were both overcome with emotion.

"She didn't expect it," said Horan. "It was a complete surprise to her. Steph's emotional reaction was amazing. Heck, even I teared up, too. It was the happiest day of my life. I'm going to marry my best friend."

I'm going to go renew my yoga-studio membership now.

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It Looks Like Suicide Squad Digitally Slimmed Cara Delevingne

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Digital slimming is nothing new for, say, magazine covers or ads. But one place we didn't expect to see the controversial practice used was in Suicide Squad, the 2016 film that won an Academy Award despite having a 25% rating on Rotten Tomatoes. (The Oscar was for "best makeup and hairstyling." But still.)

A YouTube video posted Monday appears to show the digital retouching process that Sony Pictures Imageworks used to create the Suicide Squad visual effects. The studio added a lot of effects to Delevingne's character, Enchantress, to make her costume look super badass. But if the viral video is any indication, Imageworks may also have used the digital process to flatten the model-actress's stomach.

If you don't want to watch the full effects video, Delevingne's transformation takes place between the 1:20 and 1:31 marks in the clip below.

As Marie Claire points out, there does appear to be digital slimming going on. Just look at the two thumbnail images on the video for side-by-side confirmation.

To be fair, Imageworks isn't hiding anything — the new video is actually an extended version of one the effects studio posted on Youtube in March. The Imageworks video shows the same retouching on Enchantress.

If Suicide Squad did use digital effects to slim Delevingne's body down, that's really not okay. Enchantress is just as powerful a character no matter what size her body is.

Sadly, this is far from the first time that women have undergone undue retouching for superhero/villain movies. The Wonder Woman trailer was criticized for its retouching of Gal Gadot's armpits — some fans wondered why there was no evidence of stubble, and one person noted that she "was raised on an island of women with no Schick advertisements." It may not seem like a big deal, but the underlying message — that women's natural bodies aren't good enough to sell movies — really isn't great.

Refinery29 has reached out to a rep for Warner Bros., as well as Imageworks, for comment on this story. We will update this post if and when we obtain a response.

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Fox News makes sure its employees have full pockets (and bank accounts) when leaving the company amid sexual harassment allegations.

Like Roger Ailes, host Bill O'Reilly will receive a huge payout to leave Fox News, CNNMoney reported. The network's parent company, 21st Century Fox, sent a memo to its staff Wednesday explaining that the host wouldn't return to work after his Italian vacation. Neither O'Reilly nor 21st Century Fox revealed how much cash the anchor will get (likely due to a confidentiality agreement), but The Financial Times reports he will receive a maximum payout of one year's salary.

According to CNNMoney, O'Reilly signed a new contract before he was ousted, which put his salary at about $25 million, up from an estimated $18 to $20 million.

The O'Reilly Factor anchor was pushed out after The New York Times reported he and 21st Century Fox payed five women a total of $13 million to not sue or speak publicly about his alleged misconduct. According to The Times, O'Reilly personally paid at least $9 million of the total $13 million to Andrea Mackris, a producer on his show, in 2004.

Even with that $9 million factored out of his reported $25 million payout, O'Reilly won't be hurting financially.

When Ailes was ousted for alleged sexual harassment last year, he was given a whopping $40 million, so it was expected O'Reilly would receive some cash. The company statement on O'Reilly's departure said there was a "careful review of the allegations," but neither Fox nor O'Reilly admitted any guilt. In fact, Fox pointed out what a spectacular news anchor he was during his 20 years at the network.

O'Reilly's statement on his departure said it's "tremendously disheartening" that he has to leave due to "unfounded claims." He also wrote, "Over the past 20 years at Fox News, I have been extremely proud to launch and lead one of the most successful news programs in history."

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A Week In Hollywood Hills, Los Angeles On A $0 Salary

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Welcome toMoney Diaries , where we're tackling what might be the last taboo facing modern working women: money. We're asking millennials how they spend their hard-earned money during a seven-day period — and we're tracking every last dollar.

This week: a newly post-grad medical student who is studying for her medical boards who makes money here and there, and spends it on enoki mushrooms and acupuncture.

Occupation: Medical Student. I just graduated and am studying for the medical boards.
Industry: Integrative Healthcare (Acupuncture)
Age: 35
Location: Hollywood Hills, Los Angeles
Salary: $0. My income is mostly zero. Nothing is consistent at the moment, so my savings (accumulated from working in finance prior to 2013) functions as my income / capital. I previously covered any shortfalls with student loans as I got through school. Currently, I'm at a $3,600 savings balance, or about three month's worth of expenses.
Paycheck Amount: $0. Over the last few weeks, I made about $200 tutoring, babysitting, office temping, doing promotional work for marketing events, and working at farmers markets. This hasn't all been consistent work, so savings have covered most of my expenses like rent and food. My family generously helps me out here and there with expenses like gasoline and sending birthday money. I'm starting a summer job starting soon that will pay around $900/month before taxes.

Monthly Expenses
Housing: $1,2o0, including utilities, water, trash pick-up, Wi-Fi, etc. I live alone and rent a tiny guesthouse (what would have been the maid's quarters in a house built in 1929).
Health Insurance: No health insurance. I pay for all expenses out of pocket. Hopefully I don't get hit by a bus or die, but that's all of us.
Retirement: No contributions to retirement savings.

Monthly Loan Payments
Car: $240. I owe $2,400.
Student loans: They're not yet in repayment but will be $75,000.
Credit card: $5,000 balance

All Other Monthly Expenses
Netflix: $10
Hulu, HBO GO, and Amazon Prime: From family. I share my Netflix password with them in exchange.
Car Insurance: $600 every six months. It's almost $700 but I pay in full for a discount, so it works out to about $100/month.
Miscellaneous Transport: About $200, including gas, Uber, Lyft, public transportation, and car repairs. (Included here and in week's expenses due to current varying transport.)
Phone Bill: $100, including $29/month charge for the Samsung Galaxy S7.
Gym/Yoga Classes: Generally about $100. (Again, included here and in week's expenses due to current varying transport.)

Day One

7:30 a.m. — Time for yoga class. I try to get to them six or seven days each week; it helps me amortize the expenses of working out. I practice at home as well, and over the last few years, I've usually joined a new gym or studio every month to get a new-student special. My ex used to call me a "yoga gypsy," but I can't justify spending the $100+ price tags for monthly memberships, even if I can get it down to about $4/class depending on how often I go. I try to go with my menstrual cycles: when my cycle is over, I go to a new studio. By the time I get my next period, I'm usually done for the month. I don't like to workout on my period, so I'll do a light home practice on those days.

9 a.m. — I make Chicory coffee at home in the French press. It's never as good as getting a cup from Starbucks but I can't ever justify buying coffee out for myself. I smear a couple tablespoons of cashew butter (tubs cost $12 at the farmers' market) on an organic banana (these are grown locally in Santa Barbara and I buy them at the Hollywood Farmers' Market for $2/lb.) and sprouted gluten-free toast and call it breakfast. I also drink 32 ounces of H20 from the tap. I'm very against bottled water and plastic in general, and I'm grateful that my house has drinkable water straight from the faucet.

12 p.m. — I see my therapist, who lets me pay cash for our sessions; I haven't had health insurance since I started graduate school four years ago. Honestly, I feel lucky I haven't had any major issues that urgent care couldn't handle but I don't like living this way. I've been through a lot emotionally in the last year or so with a devastating home robbery, the break-up of a three-year relationship, followed by an intense five-month relationship with a married guy who didn't end up leaving his wife. Not to mention, I finished graduate school in the midst of this personal chaos — so we talk about a lot. The 47 minutes are never long enough before I'm on my own again emotionally. $100

1 p.m. — I wrap up shredded organic chicken with alfalfa sprouts and fermented veggies in collard greens. All of this comes from the farmer's market except for the organic chicken, which I purchased from a local butcher shop, Gwen. (It costs $6/pound and is organic, antibiotic, hormone-free, additive-free, and humanely raised.) I also have half-a-quart of bone broth from Gwen, which they sell for $5 a quart; it's amazing. I pour in a tablespoon of apple cider vinegar and enjoy the slightly tangy, silky broth, and I eat an Asian pear for dessert. I have a chronic autoimmune disease and eating predominately paleo-vegan has kept it mostly under control. I started eating this way five years ago and it changed my life. $7

4 p.m. — I make a small latte with my French press and Chicory coffee, adding in collagen powder ($22/tin on Amazon, which lasts about three months), a little organic coconut oil ($10/jar), and some coconut sugar (which I scored from my babysitting clients who weren't into it. They're really generous with giving me food and things, which I appreciate). I blend them in a NutriBullet and savor the foamy goodness of it. Coffee leads to adrenal fatigue so I try not to have more than five cups a week, even though I've already had two today.

9 p.m. — For dinner, I use Kimberly Snyder's Glowing Green Smoothie as a base and add a banana, pear, celery, parsley, spinach, chia, flax, and goji, about $5 worth of ingredients. I enjoy it after taking the dog for a long walk around the neighborhood and making him cuddle. Then I study with The Path playing on Hulu in the background.

Daily Total: $107

Day Two

7 a.m. — I scramble three large eggs from the farmer's market and discover that one of the eggs has a double yolk, something that feels like a good omen to me. I also sauté kale with fermented veggies and sprinkle the whole thing with nutritional yeast. I add in the last ribbons of sliced lox from Wexler's Deli (they're so thin they're translucent). I previously purchased about $4 worth of lox. Eggs are $10 a dozen from the farmer's market, and I get to meet the people that handle the chickens. I grew up nearish to a factory chicken farm, so it makes me happy to not support factory farming.

8 a.m. — I browse Chewy.com to order dog food. I got a 7-year-old Australian Shepherd after my home was violently robbed last year. A friend-of-a-friend is a breeder and knew I was looking for a dog, and ended up giving me this super-fancy, well-trained dog with an amazing pedigree for free. I'm so grateful to her for her kindness. He's expensive to feed but honestly, he was cheaper than getting an alarm system. I priced it out and decided that I'd rather spend $50 a month to take care of an animal that I know will do his best to protect me, than get an alarm that might not do anything. I hate being a "single parent," even to a dog. It's really hard but it's better that I have him; I do feel safer. $50

12 p.m. — For lunch, I make a quarter-pound of locally-caught salmon from the fish CSA. (It cost $29/lb., and I got to meet the fisherman at the market!) I cook it with miso and tamari sauce in coconut oil with asparagus ($2/bunch) over brown rice. (The rice totally came from Trader Joe's and cost $5 for a two-pound bag.) I nibble on a sweet, juicy Asian pear for dessert. Those have also come from the Farmers' Market; they cost $3 each.

4 p.m. — I drink matcha green tea with lemon. I purchased the tea at an Asian market in K-town; $7 for 25 bags. The lemon is from a tree at my friend's Pacific Palisades beach house. I help her clean out her closet, so she lets me help myself to a few lemons off the tree. She's a stylist — like a mini-Iris Apfel at 35. She always generously gives me clothes (once, she gifted me a pair of dark red Miu Miu heels). I appreciate it so much because she's upped my style game to another level. Today, we hang out at the beach, which is literally across the street from her house — a home that her grandmother built in the 1920s. The view looks out from the Santa Monica Pier up through the Malibu curve. We roll a couple spliffs and smoke them through the afternoon.

7 p.m. — I go to a donation yoga class with one of my favorite teachers in Hollywood. He teaches at an old Hollywood club where Charlie Chaplin once played the piano. I think about that as I look at the piano onstage. He's playing Pink Floyd tonight as the soundtrack. I float away after feeling like I am looking at the "Dark Side of the Moon," even though it's a full pink moon in April. Later, I listen to Nick Drake sing "Pink Moon" on YouTube. Free music on demand FTW, though I do hate the ads. I drive home with the top down. $5

9 p.m. — Back at home, it's time for another GGS (Glowing Green Smoothie) with banana, spinach, pear, celery, parsley, kale, and lemon. I also make three eggs with spinach add shiitake mushrooms sautéed in olive oil. Then I watched another episode of The Path on Hulu. I still use my ex's Hulu account but if I paid for it myself, I'd splurge for the ad-free one. (I mean, come on!) For the one show I do watch on it, I'll live.

Daily Total: $55

Day Three

7 a.m. — Make breakfast: green tea with lemon again, plus four eggs, kale, and really amazing bacon ($14/lb.) from the butcher shop. I follow eating with a silent moment of gratitude that I get to eat my own food, and don't have to basically support my ex with my grocery budget. He always ate all my expensive food, so I never had leftovers. Plus, he never chipped in for groceries and made me split meals out with him. Despite always drinking more alcohol than I did, he'd insist on splitting the bill. It's over, but the credit card bills are still with me. Whenever I'm sad about him, I think about how cheap he was and it helps.

12 p.m. — Lunch is: baby carrots (by which I mean carrots I cut up into small pieces), cherry tomatoes, celery, and half a $5 container of hummus. Hummus is one of those things I know I should make, not buy, but like kombucha and kefir, some things are better bought! I also have a kombucha too. Third Eye Chai is my favorite.

1 p.m. — I meet a client for tutoring at Punchbowl, which makes the best juices, smoothies, and kombucha in town. My tutoring client pays for a super-clean hardcore green juice ($11), and instantly my skin looks better. Tutoring is $40 for 1.5 hours, and my clients pay cash.

4 p.m. — I score a guest pass to a yoga studio. Free class! I have made friends with as many teachers as possible to support my practice. Sometimes they can bring me in gratis and I'm always grateful. I hope to cultivate these relationships because as soon as I take (and pass) my medical board exams this summer, I'm going to need patients — and yogis usually have some sort of pain! I know I need to go to a new studio and some yogi acquaintances just opened one, but it's roughly a 20-minute drive and I don't want to go farther than 15 minutes away. They're having a $40 new-student special for the month and I really like the way they teach, so maybe I'll go there next week. This week, I'll sort out more donation classes and guest passes.

10 p.m. — I make avocado toast for dinner with radishes on sprouted gluten-free bread. Avocado's are three-for-$1 and I get them at the Farmer's Market.

8 p.m. — Acupuncture treatment and herbal medicine. I usually feel good immediately and the effects last a few days for sure. I was a ballerina from ages two to 20, which was really rough on my body. The treatments are expensive but worth it, so I try to go at least twice a month. $100

Daily Total: $100

Day Four

7 a.m. — Breakfast is six links of organic turkey sausages (they cost $5 for a package of 12 links), scrambled with three eggs, spinach, and onions — and coffee! I didn't sleep well. The dog barked all night, and I find out via text from my landlord that his GF's car was been stolen right out of our driveway. Sometimes I question my choice to live in Los Angeles. I live in a million-dollar house in a very fancy neighborhood in the Hollywood Hills, but still. I sigh with relief that it wasn't my car, and that even if they tried, it's a stick shift.

10 a.m. — Donation yoga at Runyon Canyon. Sunshine, bliss and happiness. $5

1 p.m. — Time for a snack/lunch. I make two packets of MSG-free miso soup (4 for $4) with a packet of seaweed ($1.29) and green tea with lemon at home. I buy a few mini-apples from the farmers market, at $7 for two pounds. They're like two bites each and I usually share one bite with the dog. $4

2 p.m. — Cultured coconut kefir drink. I only drink half. It's kind of gross but I'm trying real hard with the probiotics. $4

2:30 p.m. — I take the dog for a hike in Griffith Park with a hot musician artist dude my stylist introduced me to a couple months ago. At 40, he's age apropes — but last month, he ran off to Brazil to "bring a bag back" to a 19-year-old Brazilian model. I don't ask about it, but I hear though the stylist that it totally went nowhere and now he's hanging out with me again. We talk about art and music, and I feel less crappy about my breakups, but he's not my soul mate.

6:30 p.m. — We shower and then go to a super swanky, hipster-as-hell vegan Mexican restaurant in West Hollywood. It's definitely a scene and I enjoy a couple margaritas. He gets a CBD cocktail which I try. Eh. If I'm going to use marijuana at all, I much prefer smoking it to any other way of ingesting it. He doesn't have a car; he grew up in NYC and lived in San Francisco for a few years before coming down to LA. I'm not sure if he knows how to drive. He pays for the Uber there but I get the one back and go directly home by myself; I'm not feeling it. I can't get the Brazilian child model out of my head. $10

12 p.m. — I drop off laundry at Fluff-n-Fold. Washing machines aren't all that inexpensive and when you factor in time spent sitting in a laundromat, well, that's one way I justify going to Fluff-n-Fold instead. Plus, laundromats squick me out hardcore. I wish I had a washer and dryer; I've only lived in one place as an adult that had one, and I actually really like doing laundry. It's peaceful. I try to do it at friends' houses when I can, but most of the time I just send what I need done to Fluff-n-Fold for $1/lb. $24

9:30 p.m. — I Uber home, snuggle with the pup, and pass out. $7.85

Daily Total: $54.85

Day Five

7 a.m. — Breakfast is chia seed pudding with homemade almond/cashew/hazelnut milk, and steel cut overnight oats and berries. They're not paleo (I'm only paleo-vegan ish), but my body likes a little energy here and there, and this is a good start to my day. I have green tea with lemon and then make a turmeric latte with ginger, nut milk, and agave. I'm not feeling amazing after last night's margaritas but I shake it off and get to work.

12 p.m. — I feed the toddler his lunch of quesadillas with broccoli and chicken with cashew cheese. I love when the families I sit for eats like me. I make $60 for the morning with the kid.

2 p.m. — Donation yoga in Runyon Canyon. My happy place, as always. $5

4 p.m. — I get off the phone with the DA prosecuting the guy who robbed my house. He tells me I need more documentation for the restitution order to submit to the judge. I'm asking for $175,000. My grandmother died and left my family her extensive jewelry collection. It was at my house to sell when a random meth addict wandering around the Hills managed to break into my house. What he didn't steal, he destroyed. I was super broke then, too, and couldn't afford to throw a few hundred dollars out toward renter's insurance each year. If the restitution order goes though, it will help because even if I did have insurance, I wouldn't have had all that jewelry covered. It's all a mess and it's hard to deal with.

9:15 p.m. — I Uber Pool ($5) down to meet a girlfriend, her BF, and his cousin's buddy's friend, who turns out to be a super-hot, funny, 35-year-old Jewish guy. Did I just meet my future husband? He's great and touches me in a sexy way without being aggro about it. We end up going to a couple bars and the guys pick up all the tabs. I'm psyched about meeting him. My GF and her BF bounce and I invite Hotty McHotty to go to my college BFF's house in Hollywood where it's her boyfriend's birthday and they are having a dance party with cake. They went out to dinner but because of budgetary reasons, I declined and agreed to meet up later for cake. We Uber, Hotty McHotty pays and yes, he totally spends the night once we get back to my place. $5

Daily Total: $10

Day Six

6 a.m. — I kick Hotty McHotty out of my place and scarf down a banana on the way to work. At least a toddler can be handled while wickedly hungover; we watch cartoons. He texts me to tells me he really enjoyed himself and loved meeting me, and even makes plans for getting together again. I text post-game with my college BFF who totally adores him and thinks I've met my future husband. At least this one isn't married and has a real job, unlike one ex, who was a wannabe film director, and my other ex, who is married and has two kids...

12 p.m. — I share lunch again with the toddler. Today it's gluten-free pasta with organic turkey meatballs and broccoli. That's pretty much the only veggie the kid will eat, so there's a lot of it on the plate for him. I nibble on a Kind bar from the well-stocked fridge and toss one in my bag for later. These people shop at Costco and have their house stocked like a Mormon pantry. I feel like that's the ultimate rich person perk. I used to watch Cribs on MTV, and the thing I was the most into was when they opened the fridges. So much bounty!

4 p.m. — A yoga studio I like is doing $5 drop-in classes throughout April. Namaste kids: This'll probably get me through a couple weeks. Yoga life is kind of hard and requires research. $5

6 p.m. — Dinner is a whole quart of Gwen's bone broth spiked with apple cider vinegar, along with spicy ahi tuna poké ($8 for a 1/3 lb.) from Gelson's, which is the closest grocery store to me. Everyone always spots celebs there, but the only person I've seen who means anything to me is Angelyne. I shop there a lot because they send coupons for $5 off purchases of $25 to the house, and I try to never spend more than $30 at a time there. I've made two trip with coupons just to work it. Strategies! I put the tuna over the last of the spinach and arugula from the farmer's market and add in an avocado. Heaven. $15

8 p.m. — I study, hang out, walk the dog, and watch Netflix. Better Call Saul is back for season 2! I text with Hotty McHotty. I really like this guy; I just feel it. He asks me what I want to do for our date and I panic a little. He's only been in L.A. three months to my 18 years, and I feel like I've got to impress him with my suggestions. There are so many choices here, it can get overwhelming, fast. I assume he's paying (he better!), so I throw out some not-cheap but not-extra-pricy places for him to research. I have my fingers crossed.

Daily Total: $20

Day Seven

8 a.m. — I'm at the Hollywood Farmer's Market. This is literally the happiest place on earth for me. Walking around the nearly three blocks of fresh produce and seeing all my neighbors really gives me part of the sense of community I have living in L.A., and I love it. I pick up greens: kale, spinach, chard, celery, parsley, collards, asparagus, mint, and basil ($15). I get a small tub of sheep's milk yogurt ($6), which I can tolerate — and they have a rose flavor that's divine. For fruit, I get Cara Cara oranges that are finally in season ($7), lemons (three for $1), avocados (four for $2), tomatoes, and eggs ($10 for a dozen), and my favorite persimmon enoki mushrooms ($5). I pick up a few other miscellaneous items, smile, and eat all the samples. $50

10 a.m. — Going for a Trader Joe's run for Vitamin E oil to try to fade the scars on my legs. I got killed by mosquitos last year and the scars are still intense. I'm on the second bottle and it's really helping. I'd get laser treatments but those are $$$$. I'll stick with this and wait it out. $4.75

12 p.m. — Scored a free SoulCycle class! I love SoulCycle — sometimes I'm a pretty basic bitch — but I will never pay the $30/a class to go. Today's class is courtesy of a friend of a friend who teaches there and put me on the guest list. Bless her heart; it was a rocking class and I always leave Soul Cycle with a good feeling.

1:30 p.m. — I buy a half-pound of lamb from the butcher shop, Gwen, and a quart of bone broth. Each costs $5. I spend the rest of the day meal prepping for the week and studying, and then I go to my babysitting gig from 6 p.m. to 3 a.m. (Parents are going hard on a Sunday night, but that's good for my bank account!). I text with Hotty McHotty. I can't wait for our date! $10

Daily Total: $64.75

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Shawn Mendes is a total pop-star heartthrob for the teenage crowd. At only 18, he already has an impressively large and dedicated following, one that salivates over every track and social media post the young artist shares. And today's release of his new single "There's Nothing Holdin' Me Back" is no different.

The Canadian singer debuted the track early this morning and it's already trending on the charts. Since the start of his career, Mendes has been compared to similar artists before him, like fellow Canadian Justin Bieber (who hilariously "I don't know her"'ed the rising star at the beginning of his career), but he reveals that he had a different Justin in mind when he recorded his newest track: Justin Timberlake. Specifically, the Timberlake that was creating hit songs with the legendary producer, Timbaland. (Think "Give It To Me" and "Cry Me a River".) Mendes excitedly told Entertainment Weekly that his latest single is very Timbaland-inspired track, and that he sorta feels like a new version of old JT.

"We wrote the song, cut it, and then the next day I was listening back. There was this empty space after the chorus, and I [imagined] this part, this sample that Timbaland would use," he told EW. "I ordered this guitalele, which is like a baby guitar with nylon strings that sounds like a ukelele. I went over to my buddy and was like, 'I’m just going to play this.' It ended up sounding so badass. It sounds like something you’d hear on an old Justin Timberlake record, right?" A bold statement, but not totally unwarranted.

Mendes also shared his desire to make a song that was dancier than his usual love ballads — and maybe even something that people could get down to. "I wanted to make something that could play in the clubs," he said of his fresh musical transition. "I wanted something people could dance to at parties."

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Netflix’s new series Girlboss is, at its heart, an origin story for infamous self-described girlboss Sophia Amoruso and the company she founded and eventually left, Nasty Gal. And no origin story is complete without revealing how its heroine, or in this case, antiheroine, settled on the name that would make her famous. Girlboss attempts to reveal the story behind Nasty Gal’s moniker in the episode "Thank You, San Francisco."

The season 1 installment is centered around TV Sophia’s first official hangout session with her drummer-cute would-be-boyfriend Shane (Johnny Simmons). While Shane considers the day a date, Sophia (Britt Robertson) sees it as a way to eventually figure out the perfect name for her still-unnamed eBay vintage clothing store. We told you she’s selfish sometimes.

In full wooing mode, Shane manages to a prize out of a claw machine and hands his trophy over to Sophia. It’s a Rubik’s cube. The mogul-in-training immediately begins yelling, "This is it. The name of my store… Rubik’s Vintage. Think about it. It’s colorful and complicated. A total mindfuck to figure out. It’s me!"

While she does have a point, we’ve never heard of Rubik’s Vintage, so what is going on?

Minutes later on a bus, Sophia realizes the name isn’t "special" enough and ends up back at cube one. As usual, the girlboss finishes her epiphany by saying some rude things to Shane and running off the bus like she didn’t just insult him. Sophia marches right into a club where a spectacular drag queen is performing. She’s singing none other than Betty Davis’s 1975 hit, "Nasty Gal."

Sophia ditches Shane to enjoy the performance as close to the stage as possible without getting on it herself and tossing the queen Foxxy Roxxy on the floor. I would say Sophia is dancing, but it’s more than that. It looks like the song is literally taking over her body. By the time the song ends, the fashionista is screaming with joy and running out of the club. Seconds later, Nasty Gal Vintage is born.

While this version is pretty colorful and sweat soaked, the real Sophia, who executive produces Girlboss, actually did name her business after Ms. Davis’s retro track. In the second chapter of Amoruso’s memoir #Girlboss, she explains she chose the name to be a "contrarian" in comparison to all the mega-bohemian vintage stores populated eBay at the time. "I thought I was just picking a name for an eBay store, but it turned out that I was actually infusing the entire brand with not just my spirit, but the spirit of this incredible woman," she writes of the platform shoe-loving, ahead-of-her-time Davis.

We guess we should all be glad Amoruso went with "Nasty Gal," as opposed to another Davis song like "Shoo-B-Doop And Cop Him." That would take forever to type out in an address bar.

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